Are girls materialistic?

[Alexis]

Agree to all of your above points. A balance is certainly necessary, agree w/alexis on the part where a guy has no drive, no ambition watsoever....but how can u call it LOVE when a girl says she loves a guy and then moves onto greener pastures the second her parents choose a rich dude, explaining her actions by sugar-coating it, the whole "u are not settled and I cant keep saying no to my parents." If she was so keen on marrying someone like that, she shouldnt have fallen in love in the first place. After a while, u gotta start taking responsibility for your decisions. When u make one, stick with it. Love is when the guy makes sure she's well provided for, taken care of and the girl to stick by him during bumpy times. Thats how love/relationships/happy marriages work. Like I said, too much of anything is always bad.
For me being on the rosy side of love, maybe I am (I wasnt before, lol thats a whole another story) but life certainly has its lil surprises...I have been in love for quite a while now and well..............

Falling in love isnt something one can control. But practicality---you can. Sure a girl could be in 'love' with some guy, who at the moment is unemployed and unable to stand on his own feet. If the girls parents start pressuring her to tie the knot, she can come clean with her parents and tell them that shes gonna wait for her boyfriend to establish himself. The parents could agree or they may not. And if the parents dont want to wait and marry her off to that Engineer in Boston, how can she be blamed? How smart would it be for her to elope with him? And how many parents would like their daughter to marry a man who is still dependant on his parents?

[rainmaker]

if the parents dont want to wait and marry her off to that Engineer in Boston, how can she be blamed? How smart would it be for her to elope with him? And how many parents would like their daughter to marry a man who is still dependant on his parents?

.. its wrong for an unemployed guy to expect a girl to marry him, because Love alone does not constitute Marriage. rather than suggesting that they elope.. he should find a job in the first place.

[rock_26iin]

I agree with rainie......IMO a guy shud be financialy secure b4 thinking of marriage.........All tht "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi" sh!te is only 4 the movies

[Alexis]

I agree with rainie......IMO a guy shud be financialy secure b4 thinking of marriage.........All tht "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi" sh!te is only 4 the movies

NO!!!! The "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi/chodunga" isnt shit only for the movies. Ive seen scores of happy marriages that seem to be based on that ideal.



Look, its not like theres no such thing as love. There is. Im a firm believer in that, considering Im a true romantic at heart.

And if you play your cards right, you can have your cake and eat it too.

[CtrlAltDel]

All tht "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi" sh!te is only 4 the movies

^^^ no Rock...that sentiment is no sh!te...no relationship can survive without it. its just that the guy must do his share too, like having a source of income for instance.

[rock_26iin]

All tht "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi" sh!te is only 4 the movies

^^^ no Rock...that sentiment is no sh!te...no relationship can survive without it. its just that the guy must do his share too, like having a source of income for instance.

tht was exactly my point. Read the first part of my post. The boy has to be first financially settled and then the relationship can bloom to the next level.

[asli_badmash]

I agree with rainie......IMO a guy shud be financialy secure b4 thinking of marriage.........All tht "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi" sh!te is only 4 the movies

Alexis: You are truly a romantic at heart. What else can I say! Its good to know girls like you are still made. God send some my way...



rock: What you said is right! And I say that by experience. No I wasnt the one who had to hear "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi but abhi tum setteled nahin ho.. I found someone better.. isliye bye bye..." But I know of a case where the couple were lovey-dovey in the begining but soon it was bye bye...



CAD: When you say the "main tera sath nahin chodungi" is true... You are talking about when the girl is into the relationship and the guy's quite setteled. I think before the girl makes a commitment they do look into your wallet and your potential. They know you are looking down their t-shirt. So why shouldnt they look into your wallet. Its only fair...



I am saying the girls should be materialistic (in a good way). Girls have to define their goals and see what/who suits them for it. Its natural selection at work. The more money you have the better you can provide for the progeny and hence you become a more viable partner. Darwin made it so simple to understand this. And I dont think anybody can disprove Darwin. So If Darwin were alive today and was asked to comment on the dating/marraige scene, he would have obviously come to the same conclusion. "More Money/Material/better looks; more mates". I think somebody rightly said(not the exact words)... "To succeed in propagating your line either you have to be very rich or very good looking".



What would you have instead... The girl falls in love with a loser for what ever reasons and sticks by this descision. Killing her dreams, goals and aspirations. Let me ask you this. If you were the brother would you like yor sister to fall in love with a no good loser bum. Obviously NO!!!



But some times Life has its own will... You plan for some thing but the exact opposite happens. But mostly Darwinism wins.



So there Girls are materialistic and Darwinism proves it.

[IgiveAdamn]

I agree with rainie......IMO a guy shud be financialy secure b4 thinking of marriage.........All tht "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi" sh!te is only 4 the movies

Alexis: You are truly a romantic at heart. What else can I say! Its good to know girls like you are still made. God send some my way...

rock: What you said is right! And I say that by experience. No I wasnt the one who had to hear "main tumhara saath kabhi nahi chodungi but abhi tum setteled nahin ho.. I found someone better.. isliye bye bye..." But I know of a case where the couple were lovey-dovey in the begining but soon it was bye bye...

CAD: When you say the "main tera sath nahin chodungi" is true... You are talking about when the girl is into the relationship and the guy's quite setteled. I think before the girl makes a commitment they do look into your wallet and your potential. They know you are looking down their t-shirt. So why shouldnt they look into your wallet. Its only fair...

I am saying the girls should be materialistic (in a good way). Girls have to define their goals and see what/who suits them for it. Its natural selection at work. The more money you have the better you can provide for the progeny and hence you become a more viable partner. Darwin made it so simple to understand this. And I dont think anybody can disprove Darwin. So If Darwin were alive today and was asked to comment on the dating/marraige scene, he would have obviously come to the same conclusion. "More Money/Material/better looks; more mates". I think somebody rightly said(not the exact words)... "To succeed in propagating your line either you have to be very rich or very good looking".

What would you have instead... The girl falls in love with a loser for what ever reasons and sticks by this descision. Killing her dreams, goals and aspirations. Let me ask you this. If you were the brother would you like yor sister to fall in love with a no good loser bum. Obviously NO!!!

But some times Life has its own will... You plan for some thing but the exact opposite happens. But mostly Darwinism wins.

So there Girls are materialistic and Darwinism proves it.

Duh, ok.

[rock_26iin]

Look, its not like theres no such thing as love. There is. Im a firm believer in that, considering Im a true romantic at heart.
And if you play your cards right, you can have your cake and eat it too.

I never said tht there is no such thing as love. There may be some ppl who have managed to keep their relationship on the basis of love.



But honestly Alexis, u can never judge a book by its cover. U may never know the inner brawl between the spouses as they look normal on the outside. As CAD has said earlier, maybe im not in a position yet to understand this fact clearly enough



IMO Alexis, even if the girl is ready to elope/marry with parent's consent the guy shud not get married if he is not established. After all, very soon he will have a family to support and as the saying goes "bhuke pet pyar nahi hota" There has to be a proper understanding of this fact by both the girl and the boy, then they can have a peaceful and happy marriage.

[asli_badmash]

Duh, ok.

I give a Damn!

[IgiveAdamn]

Duh, ok.

I give a Damn!

So do I.

[rainmaker]

What would you have instead... The girl falls in love with a loser for what ever reasons and sticks by this descision. Killing her dreams, goals and aspirations. Let me ask you this. If you were the brother would you like yor sister to fall in love with a no good loser bum. Obviously NO!!!

exactly!!!

[asli_badmash]

Duh, ok.

I give a Damn!

So do I.

IgiveADamn:I give a Damn about you giving a damn about my giving a damn and anybody else giving a damn about wether IGiveADamn giving a damn or I giving a damn. Kapisch...

Final "I Give a damn".

[black wizard]

Duh, ok.

I give a Damn!

So do I.

IgiveADamn:I give a Damn about you giving a damn about my giving a damn and anybody else giving a damn about wether IGiveADamn giving a damn or I giving a damn. Kapisch...
Final "I Give a damn".

[IgiveAdamn]

Duh, ok.

I give a Damn!

So do I.

IgiveADamn:I give a Damn about you giving a damn about my giving a damn and anybody else giving a damn about wether IGiveADamn giving a damn or I giving a damn. Kapisch...
Final "I Give a damn".

Duhhhhhhhhhhh, ok.

[Arti]

"u are not settled and I cant keep saying no to my parents."

Oh well... I have friends who like to date boys with rich parents... all the while because they get nice gifts etc. When their parents find them "nice settled guys" they jump the wagon... almost instantly.



I know this person who dated a really rich guy for years... then it came to marriage... and the guy's parents were against the wedding... they said they'd cut him off from all the wealth if he chose to marry this girl... and she married the next well to do guy that came her way

[CtrlAltDel]

I know this person who dated a really rich guy for years... then it came to marriage... and the guy's parents were against the wedding... they said they'd cut him off from all the wealth if he chose to marry this girl... and she married the next well to do guy that came her way

a practical girl!



she'll go far in life.....

[The Jackal]

I know this person who dated a really rich guy for years... then it came to marriage... and the guy's parents were against the wedding... they said they'd cut him off from all the wealth if he chose to marry this girl... and she married the next well to do guy that came her way

a practical girl!

she'll go far in life.....

How far?

[CtrlAltDel]

I know this person who dated a really rich guy for years... then it came to marriage... and the guy's parents were against the wedding... they said they'd cut him off from all the wealth if he chose to marry this girl... and she married the next well to do guy that came her way

a practical girl!

she'll go far in life.....

How far?

as far as she possibly could....

[satishgoda]

Murphy's n'th law



never ever fall in love before getting settled. coz, if u do, getting settled will take more time than intended.



some of may differ. i respect it.



take care and have fun.

[satishgoda]

some of you may differ.





- Satish.



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PS. Why dont we have a "edit post" button. I will also try to be careful before submitting a post in future.

[CtrlAltDel]

Why dont we have a "edit post" button.

thats the zillionth time someone's asking for that feature...

[Jaan]

Are girls materialistic? YES

Do they finish first? YES and NO

Do they finish last? YES and NO



Do they finish good? DEPENDS



Are they better? DEPENDS (personality wise, the extreme type of these girls I find annoying and irritating and immature to be friends with)



Am I one? I won't deny it but I have good intention, I know my limits and I know my responsibilities.



Jaan

[Arti]

Why dont we have a "edit post" button.

thats the zillionth time someone's asking for that feature...

I agree

[CtrlAltDel]

Why dont we have a "edit post" button.

thats the zillionth time someone's asking for that feature...

I agree

thanQ!