Disgusting incidents

[CtrlAltDel]

most of these chaps are harbour the belief that such antics wud win them attention from gals. the result of too many telugu/hindi films



most of the guys who do eve-tease or try to have physical contact have hardly any interaction with girls outside their family. the students who do it generally coem from all boys school/college for whom a girl is a mysterious person who wud respond if the boys behaved like the film heroes



a person who has had healthy friendship with the opposite sex right from childhood wud rarely act so cheap

[solosynergy]

most of these chaps are harbour the belief that such antics wud win them attention from gals. the result of too many telugu/hindi films

most of the guys who do eve-tease or try to have physical contact have hardly any interaction with girls outside their family. the students who do it generally coem from all boys school/college for whom a girl is a mysterious person who wud respond if the boys behaved like the film heroes

a person who has had healthy friendship with the opposite sex right from childhood wud rarely act so cheap

but y is this prevalent only in this city.its is really shocking.i have not heard of this sorta thing anywhere.

[CtrlAltDel]

eve teasing n misbehaviour with girls is found everywhere. i dunno abt this spitting tho...its something new.



i think the place where girls are teased the least is Mumbai.

[The Jackal]

most of these chaps are harbour the belief that such antics wud win them attention from gals. the result of too many telugu/hindi films

most of the guys who do eve-tease or try to have physical contact have hardly any interaction with girls outside their family. the students who do it generally coem from all boys school/college for whom a girl is a mysterious person who wud respond if the boys behaved like the film heroes

a person who has had healthy friendship with the opposite sex right from childhood wud rarely act so cheap

Nicely put CAD.

[Sharjeel]

When we were discussing that, my father pointed out an article in the TOI that talked about how girls get teased/patted at traffic signals when they are on a bike. Is that one of the things that happens only in Hyderabad? I've never faced that anywhere else. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen anywhere at all... that's why I ask.

A bit late, but anyway. i think this problem is unique to Hyd. In nagpur you will see a lot of female drivers, and everyone is very nice to them, cautioning them to adjust their pallu if it going into the wheel, etc.



There was a very ugly period in nagpur (during 2000 new year celebrations) when girls were literally vandalised and stopped going out since the streets were taken over by drunk bastards. But otherwise, Hyd is the only city I have seen which has bias against female drivers.

[Altarboy]

abbey ooo bewakoofoon... what the hell is goin on in here...? Suddenl u come up with so many things that are native to hyd.... I mean how dumb can one get?



A female posts to tell the world her story of bad destiny... and is wondering if that always happens, and only happens in this particular city. And some DESPO guys... just to seek her attention, play with facts.. tlak about TOI articles... and try to support her... in a desperate futile attempt to be in her good books, as the only good and ncie dudes in HYDERABAD.



Just imagine, how u r tarnishing the image of this great city.. what all u generalise... One gets the picture that hyd is perfectly unsafe... esp for women... they get spit on... squeezed.. molested.. humiliated..leched.. Grrrrrrrr...



I remember reading a particular thread of miss Joanna, frm Poland, when she enquired about the safety of women in hyderabad, Every damn male species replied saying its very safe... need nto worry, and ppl are great, and some DESPOs also volunteered tot ake her around and show her places... I mean if this os called SPit_fiasco was always there.., then why didnt it come out during that time? And why did it come out this time? symphathy_hitting this is called.... Showing symphathy towards the victim and supporting the victim and thereby be in her good books.... PLAIN double standards MAN..

[CtrlAltDel]

if u care to ask ladies u too wud hear tales of 'spitting'. eve teasing goes on everywhere but this is something new for me. i didnt even know abt this until i read it hear. it was then that i asked my friends n colleagues abt it and they affirmed that it does happen.



sometimes u have to admit that certain things could be wrong. sitting in an ivory tower and refusing to believe facts coz u didnt see it happening is stupidity

[san]

It is a fact that such incidents have happened in the past and will continue to happen in the future. Unless victimised, it is difficult to imagine the humilation caused by such degrading acts. Imagine the anger and frustration as these happen in public places and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it!



Time for some action...



Perhaps every girl/woman who gets harrassed should complain to every possible authority that can take action. The enforcers of law & order must be inundated to the extent that they can no longer ignore the situation.



Every citizen has right to go out without fear. High time!!!



Respect.

[SACHIN TENDULKAR GOD OF INDIA]

Well this thread says that spitting, abusing female drivers, etccccc all kinds of things happen in hyderabad and hyderabad only.....

And my dear Arti and Sharjeel dont make cock and bull stories ......

And some stupid idiots as pointed out by ALTARBOY go on supporting her to to become gud boys in their books.



so except 2 ppl in this thread all the rest support that these kinds of peculiar incidents happen in hyderabad only GOD SAVE U GUYSSSSSSSS



i said it was my las post but u guys are degrading u r self respect by tryin to take the sheen of hyderabad's glitter jus to be become gud boyzzz in a gals book.



Abey bewakoofoon kabhi tho ladki kho bhi thukraaaon.

[lonewolf]

I live in Chicago on Devon Street, where you find the most Indians (esp Hyderabadis), and I live here because right now I have no option.



Last week, there were at least two instances where Indian paan eaters almost spat on my shoes when I was walking on the road. The 4km road is full of paan stains and you find people spitting as if this were Hyderabad. The latest spitting incident took me by surprise and if I had not jumped away, my shoes would have had paan all over. Other non-Indians standing nearby were grinning. The spitter just walked on as if everything was ok. I don't know why I didn't say anything, but next time someone does that, he'll have a verbal thrashing.

[akhilis2cool]

Eve teasing happens every where. I believe intentional Spitting is a part of eve teasing. but its also possible that the spitting on ppl. cld. b unintetional. People spitting thru bus windows dont really look-before-they-spit (which is a bad habit ). the same cannot b said abt. the ones on two wheelers though.



and we cannot single out hyd. as the only place where this happens. pan and gutkha are eaten all over the country. infact in hyd. the consumption of gutkha is far lesser than in some other cities that i have been to.



hyd. still remains one of the safest cities for women in India as compared to places like mumbai, delhi......

[CtrlAltDel]

please read this:



http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/27481652.cms

[akhilis2cool]

please read this:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/27481652.cms

those bastards need to be kicked into the lock-up . but i still dont believe it happens only in hyd. (do u?).

[CtrlAltDel]

please read this:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/27481652.cms

those bastards need to be kicked into the lock-up . but i still dont believe it happens only in hyd. (do u?).

its news to me that it happens in hyderabad. i really dont know abt other cities.



but that it has appeared in a newspaper is proof that its not a rare happening.

[Mayavi Morpheus]

please read this:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/27481652.cms

those bastards need to be kicked into the lock-up . but i still dont believe it happens only in hyd. (do u?).

its news to me that it happens in hyderabad. i really dont know abt other cities.

but that it has appeared in a newspaper is proof that its not a rare happening.

abbey ooo bewakoofoon... that TOI reporter is just trying to impress Arti to be in her good books and u bought that shit I cant believe it

[akhilis2cool]

please read this:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/27481652.cms

those bastards need to be kicked into the lock-up . but i still dont believe it happens only in hyd. (do u?).

its news to me that it happens in hyderabad. i really dont know abt other cities.

but that it has appeared in a newspaper is proof that its not a rare happening.

abbey ooo bewakoofoon... that TOI reporter is just trying to impress Arti to be in her good books and u bought that shit I cant believe it

but u believe it happens, rite?

[reality.,its here. Accept it.]

hello people,

I dont generally post views on the discussion boards but this topic and the way in which the tread is losing direction made me think otherwise.

To begin with, just one small advice to 'arti' on how to avoid being spat on, stop walking on the roads with that 'particular friend'.( just kidding. There are no real solutions,only real problems.)

Now coming to the topic at hand, no one i know ever faced this problem in hyderabad but i faintly remember reading about it and i dont even remember where and when , might have as well been in maharastra where i spent a lot of time and chewing paan is a much more common thing there. But just becoz it dint happen to anyone i know i dont think it doesnt happen. Even normal crimes dont happen to everybody but they do happen.right? And becoz it happens and its not right it should be condemned. Discussion boards are the new public forums, where do u condemn it other than here. even if it is a rare incident. This should answer the people who were arguing about the rarity of the occurances.

( i agree with one point of yours though, guys do try to impress females in what ever form they think is best --everyone of us does it, some in crude ways, others in a more intellectual way )

And the issue we are discussing here is about things that happen in hyderabad that are not good for the image of the city, so be it one odd incident or whole lot of them, they do the same damage to the image of the city & its people, for the person involved. These things happen everywhere in india and abroad, but does it make it alright for them to happen here. Do u guys want to take pride in city that might become a bihar or accept that something is wrong and try and do ur bit to improve it. So the guys who are vehemently denying that these things happen, just wish that they dont happen to anyone in your family. and i wish they dont happen to anyone.

And now for some real workable solutions,

'arti' since u cant just keep of the roads, i suggest u pick up a real good stone the next time u are walking with ur friend ( what the hell pick as many as u can hold ) , and next time (god forbid ) if some does try and spit hit him hard. i think u will need some practice throwing stones(spent batteries are a good alternative) but thats the only workable reply apart from noting the vehicle number and lodging a complaint for assault and battery.( but this takes a long time and all of us dont have time.)

about the touching n brushing ,, if u havent noticed there males out there are ready to help the damsels in distress( an other way of impressing ) so all u have to do is catch hold of the collar of the person who does that immediately and make a racket, the bystanders will be only too willing to help. if u let he person go with just murmuring ur curses to urself he will do it again. so if u give it back to him in public he might detest rom doing it in the future. its worth a try.

and if these things happen in lonely areas,, no real solution except learn martial arts , carry a pepper spray( i read that they are avialable in india these days) , and finally AVOID THOSE AREAS.



Finally one last thing about hyderabad,, i have been here for the past 1 yr and what i noticed is the - you can try and take hyderabad out of the gutter but you just cant take the gutter out the people here. Its a honest opinion i developed about this lovely city.

[CtrlAltDel]

i agree with most of wat u wrote, but i take offence to this:

you can try and take hyderabad out of the gutter but you just cant take the gutter out the people here.

there are perverts everywhere. just coz u happen to meet quite a few does not mean u can tar the entire population this way. i am a hyderabadi and proud of it. i also accept that there are some _ among the citizens but it does not mean all are.



u must be unfortunate enuf to interact the dregs of society. thats yr bad luck.

[Arti]

i agree with most of wat u wrote, but i take offence to this:

you can try and take hyderabad out of the gutter but you just cant take the gutter out the people here.

there are perverts everywhere. just coz u happen to meet quite a few does not mean u can tar the entire population this way. i am a hyderabadi and proud of it. i also accept that there are some _ among the citizens but it does not mean all are.

u must be unfortunate enuf to interact the dregs of society. thats yr bad luck.

I agree that there are perverts everywhere. And I also admit that this was my experience, so I decided to write about it. I was mugged in Delhi... but there's no fulldelhi.com where I could protest. I'm sure there's good and bad in every city and I think we have it in us to publicise both so that we spread the message of the good... and warn people about the bad so that it disappears with time.

[Arti]

Hi Arti,
I am sorry to say but I think the incidents u narrated look like nicely narrated stories, I cant believe whn u say ppl spat pan on u 3 times and that tooo near nagarjuna circle.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well kise aur ko sunana apni kahani

We hyderabadis are prtty well mannered...................

i do not believe wat Arti sayssssssssssssssssss

Maine to public ko sunayee apni kahani. Aap ko nahin sun ni to mat suniye. Jo likha hai, woh isi shahar mein hua tha. Whether you believe me or not is your choice.

[Arti]

Ahem..arti i am sorry to say this but i really think u r exaggeratin a little...i mean being spat on once, well could be possible...but thrice i really really dont think so...and i have actually asked some of my female friends and they havent heard or seen anything like this b4.....

What can I say? Except that your female friends are very lucky!

[Arti]

please read this:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/27481652.cms

those bastards need to be kicked into the lock-up . but i still dont believe it happens only in hyd. (do u?).

Well, thanks for this CAD. I read the article... and it mentions Banjara Hills again. So its not just me. And in any case, at least people here will know that I am not exaggerating.

[Reality,,its here.Accept it.]

hi CAD,

i dint mean that as an offence , it was as i stated a honest opinion i formed over a period of time. In no other city i stayed, was i stopped in the middle of the road by a person holding out his hand a la keanu reaves in climax scene of 'The Matrix'. and when i oblige him he abuses me and crosses the road. what was that? i still cant make head or tails of it.

its the collection of incidences like these that stay marked in a person's mind when he forms an opinion.

and one thing i read in the news article, the police official saying that spitting paan is endemic to hyderabad, he doesnt know what he talking about. Atleast surely he hasnt been posted to maharastra, there u see paan stains in the most exclusive places too. Hyderabad is a lot better in that aspect and most others compared to the north but i dont want it to get any closer to the cities of U.P and Bihar.

[Arti]

hi CAD,
i dint mean that as an offence , it was as i stated a honest opinion i formed over a period of time. In no other city i stayed, was i stopped in the middle of the road by a person holding out his hand a la keanu reaves in climax scene of 'The Matrix'. and when i oblige him he abuses me and crosses the road. what was that? i still cant make head or tails of it.
its the collection of incidences like these that stay marked in a person's mind when he forms an opinion.
and one thing i read in the news article, the police official saying that spitting paan is endemic to hyderabad, he doesnt know what he talking about. Atleast surely he hasnt been posted to maharastra, there u see paan stains in the most exclusive places too. Hyderabad is a lot better in that aspect and most others compared to the north but i dont want it to get any closer to the cities of U.P and Bihar.

I agree that people chew and spit pan all over, but like I said earlier, I've had pan on me when I happened to be in the line of fire in other cities... like when I was at a traffic signal next to a bus or something. I've never experienced being spat upon ...being the target. You see pan stains everywhere... the question is do you see them on girls everywhere.

[Ajay]

Sic!! Yuk !! dumb idiots and other names which i cant write in here.



What kind of arrogant fun is this. I think its mostly insanity rather than anything else. Sorry for them Though i am not a hyderabadi..