Are You Bitter?

[Alexis]

17...married.

But somehow, as is the case with these tests, I found the range of answers quite limiting.

So did Aq81, but she still scored the same as me. Which is high for someone unmarried.

How does the marriage connection work here?

Apparently, the married members score higher and are less bitter. Read the other posts on this thread, and you'll see.

[CtrlAltDel]

How does the marriage connection work here?

read my take on this phenomenon a few posts above..

[Habitual Perfectionist]

How does the marriage connection work here?

read my take on this phenomenon a few posts above..

I got that....but the point of me asking this question was if there was some proven facts that go with this hypothesis. Again, not that it matters really to me. My wife is a diehard fan of the John Gray genre of books, but 90% of her views about me are not quite in confirmation with what the books say. Nikamme logon ka timepass hai ye sab.

[azazel]

Nikamme logon ka timepass hai ye sab.

damn.. u stole my line!

[Habitual Perfectionist]

Nikamme logon ka timepass hai ye sab.

damn.. u stole my line!

Gr8 minds think alike.

[azazel]

Gr8 minds think alike.

2 in a row..

[Habitual Perfectionist]

Gr8 minds think alike.

2 in a row..

Shows who's the greater of the two minds.

[dethslut]

How does the marriage connection work here?

read my take on this phenomenon a few posts above..

I got that....but the point of me asking this question was if there was some proven facts that go with this hypothesis. Again, not that it matters really to me. My wife is a diehard fan of the John Gray genre of books, but 90% of her views about me are not quite in confirmation with what the books say. Nikamme logon ka timepass hai ye sab.

na, there is no proven facts, it was my hypothesis that married men/women have a higher score, which means that marriage gives them a chance to get over their previous lives (atleast for pretention). but again there are always exceptions to the rule, like the guest guy who scored just 9. loser, cant imagine why he jumped into marriage carring shit from his past and obviously passing it on to his partner as well.

well, was just my hypothesis. lets seee for more stastical data.

[Sharjeel]

na, there is no proven facts, it was my hypothesis that married men/women have a higher score, which means that marriage gives them a chance to get over their previous lives (atleast for pretention). but again there are always exceptions to the rule, like the guest guy who scored just 9. loser, cant imagine why he jumped into marriage carring shit from his past and obviously passing it on to his partner as well.well, was just my hypothesis. lets seee for more stastical data.

Agree with you.



It is more because the questions deal with relationships and such, and unmarried people may or may not have been in any relationship, which is why they might have scored low.

[asli_badmash]

14...



I guess thats good.



I hope I meet some good people to reaffirm my thoughts. I have met some good people and I think it brought me to where I am today.



Sometimes when bad things happen to you... you loose trust in people(in my case: Women) and then you meet some nice people and time solves the rest.



But the important thing is to be open to people and never let past experiences dictate who you become.

[Alexis]

14...

I guess thats good.

I hope I meet some good people to reaffirm my thoughts. I have met some good people and I think it brought me to where I am today.

Sometimes when bad things happen to you... you loose trust in people(in my case: Women) and then you meet some nice people and time solves the rest.

But the important thing is to be open to people and never let past experiences dictate who you become.

Everything in life becomes a learning experience, and relatonships are a big part of life. We meet some bad apples and after a taste, we throw them away. But it doesnt make us despise the whole fruit world. We move on to the next tree. The whole way we learn some important lessons about love, people, and even ourselves.

The important things is not to lose our individuality, principles, ideas and zest for life because of some crummy love problems from past relationships.

[dethslut]

14...

I guess thats good.

I hope I meet some good people to reaffirm my thoughts. I have met some good people and I think it brought me to where I am today.

Sometimes when bad things happen to you... you loose trust in people(in my case: Women) and then you meet some nice people and time solves the rest.

But the important thing is to be open to people and never let past experiences dictate who you become.

Everything in life becomes a learning experience, and relatonships are a big part of life. We meet some bad apples and after a taste, we throw them away. But it doesnt make us despise the whole fruit world. We move on to the next tree. The whole way we learn some important lessons about love, people, and even ourselves.
The important things is not to lose our individuality, principles, ideas and zest for life because of some crummy love problems from past relationships.

or judt go but fruits from the vendor if the trees demand ur time INXS

[CtrlAltDel]

Everything in life becomes a learning experience, and relatonships are a big part of life. We meet some bad apples and after a taste, we throw them away. But it doesnt make us despise the whole fruit world. We move on to the next tree. The whole way we learn some important lessons about love, people, and even ourselves.
The important things is not to lose our individuality, principles, ideas and zest for life because of some crummy love problems from past relationships.

well said Alexis! exactly my philosophy....!

getting over bad past experience is necessary...whether the 'victim' is married or not....

[dethslut]

Everything in life becomes a learning experience, and relatonships are a big part of life. We meet some bad apples and after a taste, we throw them away. But it doesnt make us despise the whole fruit world. We move on to the next tree. The whole way we learn some important lessons about love, people, and even ourselves.
The important things is not to lose our individuality, principles, ideas and zest for life because of some crummy love problems from past relationships.

well said Alexis! exactly my philosophy....!
getting over bad past experience is necessary...whether the 'victim' is married or not....

what i think is that someone should nt rush into marriage without without getting over their past or carrying shit from a past life.

[CtrlAltDel]

what i think is that someone should nt rush into marriage without without getting over their past or carrying shit from a past life.

u r right, but thsi not only applies to marriage, but also to any new relationship or even a single status....past is past....its not easy to forget an once deep relationship, but it can be done and must be done.



all that Devdas-like romanticism is all bull-shit.

[dethslut]

what i think is that someone should nt rush into marriage without without getting over their past or carrying shit from a past life.

u r right, but thsi not only applies to marriage, but also to any new relationship or even a single status....past is past....its not easy to forget an once deep relationship, but it can be done and must be done.

all that Devdas-like romanticism is all bull-shit.

ya, u have to move on..... but its always hard the first time.

later, u just get used to it.

[CtrlAltDel]

ya, u have to move on..... but its always hard the first time.
later, u just get used to it.

thats true.....my first two break ups were terrible...but subsequent such breakups hardly bothered me....

i still sometimes think abt my first two gals but it doesnt bother me at all...

[Alexis]

Time heals all wounds.......you dont necessarily have to get rid of all your issues from a bad break-up before plunging into a new one. Because the new love of your life will hopefully make things better, help you forget the past, and create some new memories.

[Habitual Perfectionist]

Time heals all wounds.......you dont necessarily have to get rid of all your issues from a bad break-up before plunging into a new one. Because the new love of your life will hopefully make things better, help you forget the past, and create some new memories.

I echo that....personal experience.

[dethslut]

Time heals all wounds.......you dont necessarily have to get rid of all your issues from a bad break-up before plunging into a new one. Because the new love of your life will hopefully make things better, help you forget the past, and create some new memories.

i am in the process of doing it.

broke up with my chick maybe 6 weeks ago, well, thats actually how i got hooked up to the board.



but the thing is that i dont really have the energy to meet anyone. just too haunted by thoughts.

[dethslut]

Time heals all wounds.......you dont necessarily have to get rid of all your issues from a bad break-up before plunging into a new one. Because the new love of your life will hopefully make things better, help you forget the past, and create some new memories.

I echo that....personal experience.

i ll take u guys words serioously and give it a go.

[oneminutecooler]

I scored 17
I know I sure aint bitter!

I ALSO GOT A 17! ~high fives~

[oneminutecooler]

I scored 17
I know I sure aint bitter!

I ALSO GOT A 17! ~high fives~

........and I am not married........So Let me get this straight...The married people got higher scores? Well, that is understandable.....I guess I'm one of the "exceptions"

[dethslut]

I scored 17
I know I sure aint bitter!

I ALSO GOT A 17! ~high fives~

........and I am not married........So Let me get this straight...The married people got higher scores? Well, that is understandable.....I guess I'm one of the "exceptions"

na, there is nothing wrong in single people getting higher scores. its perfectly normal, but the research is only for married people

[Alexis]

I scored 17
I know I sure aint bitter!

I ALSO GOT A 17! ~high fives~

........and I am not married........So Let me get this straight...The married people got higher scores? Well, that is understandable.....I guess I'm one of the "exceptions"

Cool, OMC!!! An unbitter kunwari, thats good.



DS, its time to let it go. Sure it'll take time, but its not impossible. Dont be traumatized by your past experiences. Venture into fresh water and get on with the baiting and hooking. lol! Ok, I didnt mean 'hooking' like that. You know what I really meant.