12 year old Boy

[Agony parent]

HI all..



We have a very peculiar problem which we are not able to contain or solve, while its aggrevating day by day, need the boards kind help and advise please to tackle the situation.



Our 12 year old boy who is very inelligent and can get good marks, seldom studies,nor behaves properly, he even sarted to steal money from home to buy eatables.. though we provide him the best of the best, still he wants to have by him self without our approval.



we tried putting him in tution spending lots of money , but he whiles away he time and gets very poor marks, but if he applies his mind he can get 95 pct easily he has got that capacity but never does it ...



He is becoming very rebullious date by date, please dear experience parents help us out...

[answer to all agonies]

HI all..

We have a very peculiar problem which we are not able to contain or solve, while its aggrevating day by day, need the boards kind help and advise please to tackle the situation.

Our 12 year old boy who is very inelligent and can get good marks, seldom studies,nor behaves properly, he even sarted to steal money from home to buy eatables.. though we provide him the best of the best, still he wants to have by him self without our approval.

we tried putting him in tution spending lots of money , but he whiles away he time and gets very poor marks, but if he applies his mind he can get 95 pct easily he has got that capacity but never does it ...

He is becoming very rebullious date by date, please dear experience parents help us out...

get him a girl friend. everything will be alright

[Supportive]

HI all..

We have a very peculiar problem which we are not able to contain or solve, while its aggrevating day by day, need the boards kind help and advise please to tackle the situation.

Our 12 year old boy who is very inelligent and can get good marks, seldom studies,nor behaves properly, he even sarted to steal money from home to buy eatables.. though we provide him the best of the best, still he wants to have by him self without our approval.

we tried putting him in tution spending lots of money , but he whiles away he time and gets very poor marks, but if he applies his mind he can get 95 pct easily he has got that capacity but never does it ...

He is becoming very rebullious date by date, please dear experience parents help us out...

Well this his age. Looks like you guys are not being attentive.



Attentive means responding positively to his actions.



DO not be over supportive nor be give him that big brother treatment, both will pressurise him.



Give him some space to breathe in, let him be aware that you know about all of his activities. Allow negligible mistakes, be stern on things that are a danger to his life or the community. For Sake do not hagle.



He should be fine.

[akhilis2cool]

if u know what he likes (a particular aport, or music...etc) u can encourage him to take it up seriously. ones hedoes that he will surely become a lot more quiter at home.

[The Jackal]

HI all..

We have a very peculiar problem which we are not able to contain or solve, while its aggrevating day by day, need the boards kind help and advise please to tackle the situation.

Our 12 year old boy who is very inelligent and can get good marks, seldom studies,nor behaves properly, he even sarted to steal money from home to buy eatables.. though we provide him the best of the best, still he wants to have by him self without our approval.

we tried putting him in tution spending lots of money , but he whiles away he time and gets very poor marks, but if he applies his mind he can get 95 pct easily he has got that capacity but never does it ...

He is becoming very rebullious date by date, please dear experience parents help us out...

When I read about your son,I felt that he was a carbon copy of me.But stealing money at 12yrs is unpardonable.I dont think you guys are stict enough on him.I was just like your son,one nice slap from my mother changed everything,I hated her for that slap but now I thank her.My suggestion for you guys is to keep your son very busy in studies(dont push him over the edge).I think there are two reasons why hes stealing:

1.He likes to impress his friends.

2.He doesnt have any friends and is trying to make friends using money.



I am thinking its most probably the second one because I have a friend who used to steal and tried to impress the other guys in our class.This guy is an actors son and he has loads of money but hes a wimp and used to impress the people who didnt have any money.Then we called him aside and explained to him that everyone in the class is using him,then we talked some scence into him and convinced him not to steal.



Try to get a person who your son respects and ask that person to convince him,like a cousin or uncle.



Just keep many strict tutors for your son and keep him busy.I know it worked for me.



If you feel he has bad friends then change your place of residence and change his school

[Agony parent]

Dear all.



thankyou so much for your kind inputs shall try your methods,however like to share one more point is, he does have good friends at school. we are very firm with him and also appreciate his good work and reward him more than require.. especially for eatables... we seldom go to movie and never visited any cinemas in the last 10 years,,, but we go on a very regular drive to places with children...

[Jaan]

You can also look at it another way. Were either of you (the parents) like this (meaning most of the traits displayed) when you were young?



Maybe this is just a phase he is going through. Also, are there any older siblings to influence his behavior?



If you feel like the end of your rope, try child counseling methods.

Usually activites such as your son's is for attention purposes.



Jaan