Child Abuse in India?

[Alexis]

America makes a big hullabloo about Child Abuse.



Child abuse includes physical injury, sexual maltreatment, emotional maltreatment, deprivation of necessities, or a reason authorities believe that the child's welfare is harmed or threatened.

Child abuse describes a variety of abnormal behaviors directed against children. It can take many forms. The abuse in general is a psychological problem or perversion of the abuser.



If the parents or guardians are charged with child abuse, the Social Services take custody of the child(ren)......and at the end of it all, after the court hearing and all, the children are either given back to the parents or put in foster homes.



I think its a good thing that America enforces these laws and cares so much for the welfare of those under the age of 18. This country is full of crazy people who turn into parents who harm/kill their children.



I wonder if Indian law has something similar? Does India even recognize the existence of child abuse? Has there ever been a case of child abuse? Do you think its important in India?

[CtrlAltDel]

i dont think india has strong laws on this, and if there are, i am sure they are not implemented properly. child abuse is common here too...hell, having a child as servant at home is child abuse too...and i am sure many in this board are guilty of it.

sexual abuse is also common but usually hushed up by the family themselves for the sake of _ Khandaan Ki Izzat...no one cares about the feelings of the child and the child is made to feel guilty for ever.



there are certain things that make me feel ashamed of being an Indian and this is one of those....



now that i have become a father and seeing my child daily, my feelings about this has become stronger. anybody who indulges in child abuse should not be spared.

[Lucifer]

Child abuse is a serious issue. And, CAD, we do have very good laws on the matter. The problem lies with the people as these cases often go unreported. Did you know that it is illegal to employ a child below the age of 14 in the country? Even the US does not have a law on that. Not only that, if you find some place that employs underaged children all you have to do is lodge an FIR in the nearest police station. The law would not only take the perpetrator to task but also compel him to make a trust fund for the child(ren) he has empoyed. And unlike popular misconception, cases like these are disposed off rather quickly.



The law is nothing without the people's participation. More people have to come forward for laws to have teeth. CAD, it is saddenning that you said certain things about being an Indian ashame you. Agreed things are not right everywhere in the country but that is no reason to feel shamed over them. I would not say I have seen the world, but I have been to two countries and I realised only one thing. The kind of freedom India offers you even the land of the free and the home of the brave does not.

[CtrlAltDel]

Child abuse is a serious issue. And, CAD, we do have very good laws on the matter. The problem lies with the people as these cases often go unreported.

ya..thats what i meant by "not prperly implementing"...if all the laws we have are implemented strictly, we cud make this country heaven on earth...we have all the laws...only on paper...

CAD, it is saddenning that you said certain things about being an Indian ashame you. Agreed things are not right everywhere in the country but that is no reason to feel shamed over them.

point taken. i had become emotional when i typed that...but stll we are a long way off when it comes to implementing the concept of "equality before law" in letter n spirit. look at the recent balakrishna case. that bastard is walking free. if i had done the same thing, can i walk free too?

[SimarikSmokin]

Well i think that Child abuse is good, of course i am going to Spank my kids, and teach them right from wrong, even though America disapproves child abuse, i would definantely approve it because you see, teens dropping out of school ending up in gangs, and jails because they are not scared of their parents.



I saw a movie on Lifetime Television for Women a mother who abuses her kid with overdosing the child with Laxatives, so she can attention for self. which of course is too much and this is another con.

[akhilis2cool]

Well i think that Child abuse is good, of course i am going to Spank my kids, and teach them right from wrong, even though America disapproves child abuse, i would definantely approve it

that is a shocking statement SS.....u cld have put it in a better way...
wat u r trying to say is that u will teach ur children wats good and wats not good...and if required u will spank them....not much wrong with that....but the way u have put it is shocking

because you see, teens dropping out of school ending up in gangs, and jails because they are not scared of their parents.

child abuse is not an answer to that pblm....

[azazel]

Well i think that Child abuse is good, of course i am going to Spank my kids, and teach them right from wrong

hain?? plz read the opening post of this thread for an explanation for what qualifies as child abuse.. Child Abuse is a heinous crime, something that unfortunately goes unpunished in most cases or is hushed up totally n most of the times, its someone close to the victim who is guilty of it..



SS, being strict as what u say u will be, does not qualify as abuse.. it is too strong a term for wht u said.. it'll be nice of u to clarify

[Alexis]

Its not considered child abuse if you smack your kids for disciplinary reasons. Even some school in America have 'Corporeal Punishment', where the student is paddled by the Principal or Coach. But thats only if the parents consent to that form of punishment, they have to sign up fot it during enrollment.



And SS, in that movie youre talking about........the mother sufferered from Munchausen syndrome -- where the parent feigns acute and dramatic illness for which no clinical evidence is ever found. She did that to gain sympathy and attention from others.

[Lucifer]

...if i had done the same thing, can i walk free too?

You wanna do the same thing? This is classified but I am looking for someone who can join forces with me to go around killing people. Wanna join in?



PS: The devil is not supposed to take souls unless the Gods deem it necessary. So this is going to attract the wrath of the heavens.

[Alexis]

...if i had done the same thing, can i walk free too?

You wanna do the same thing? This is classified but I am looking for someone who can join forces with me to go around killing people. Wanna join in?

PS: The devil is not supposed to take souls unless the Gods deem it necessary. So this is going to attract the wrath of the heavens.

I wouldve joined forces with you, Lucifer. But I cant since Im trying to stay clean.

[Lucifer]

I wouldve joined forces with you, Lucifer. But I cant since Im trying to stay clean.

You already have joined forces with me, remember, albeit for a different purpose. And, what do I hear? Trying to stay clean? Come on...

[Alexis]

I wouldve joined forces with you, Lucifer. But I cant since Im trying to stay clean.

You already have joined forces with me, remember, albeit for a different purpose. And, what do I hear? Trying to stay clean? Come on...

Well you know, I do have a conscience. And its bothering me cuz Ive been kinda bad. Not seriously sinful, but just the regular kinda trespasses.

[Lucifer]

Well you know, I do have a conscience. And its bothering me cuz Ive been kinda bad. Not seriously sinful, but just the regular kinda trespasses.

You know the only way to subjugate your conscience is to sin more. What say? You game?

[Alexis]

Two wrongs dont make a right, Lucy!

But youve spoken like a true Devil, I gotta give you that.

[Lucifer]

Two wrongs dont make a right, Lucy!

Agreed. But they do make life interesting...

But youve spoken like a true Devil, I gotta give you that.

Who else did you expect me to speak like?

[CtrlAltDel]

...Ive been kinda bad....

then i think u need to be spanked... what say?

[DQ]

Well read this thread very late.



Abuse :



1. Physical - In any nature be, should be punishable.

- If anybody apart from the parents resort to this (Physical Abuse) should be fined,jailed whatever.

- If its Parents, corrective counselling should be under taken.



Children below the Age of 7 should not be smacked, whatever reason. Study shows that indiscpline comes by due to effects surrounding children.

It is probably your fault somewhere that your child is indiscplined. If you want to rectify it, spanking is not the solution.



Observe and you will find the answer. You may need to take up some corrective action.

e.g Change in school.

Change in locality

Spending time with children, instead of entrusting them with foreign entity (ayya etc)

Change in your own behaviour, maybe use of language.

Maybe use of harsh and abusive language in front of children etc etc.

Even showing a bit of insecurity may have drastic effects on the behaviour of children.



Spanking may become necessary for older children, i.e 7-15, that too when all efforts of rectification have been reached. And the behaviour that the child was involved in is life threatning or damaging to the child or society .

Even in such a case spanking is not recomended but, if necessary should be light.



Not sure if this is in Indian Law or no, but we need to surely try to bring about an awarness.



Why is awarness important.



Indian community is among the most educated and intelligent one around the Globe.



What they lack is confidence. Among the major reasons for that is the types of abuse children go through since their childhood.



Abuse could be due to social factors etc.



to be continued.......if the above statements are not argued

[CtrlAltDel]

to be continued.......if the above statements are not argued

u might be surprised, but i agree with u here...



arre yaar....i dont argue unless i feel the other party is not right......

[azazel]

u might be surprised, but i agree with u here... arre yaar....i dont argue unless i feel the other party is not right......

----ditto----

[DQ]

Now one of the after effects of Physical abuse is Physicological abuse.



The fear of of the Rod is instilled so deep, that it turns into a physicological problem.



If its the teacher at school,



- The child is so petrified by the teachers is such that, they just do not feel the need to Question the teachers at all.



- Whatever happens, the child puts up with. (Maybe related to a subject that he does not understand or maybe as major as abuse by peers or bullies)



- The childish innocence is snatched away by some of these teachers.



e.g if some one is talkative- that little one is spontanious in life.

The teachers brand him/her talkative, if not the rod they resort to aleinating the child, not realising that they are abusing their position and instilling a complex in the child.



Moreover they are snatching a natural trait/ability from the child.



If its the Parent / Elder



- It is instilled so deep that children find no solace in this world.

- It is so damaging that children do not report anything to their parents.

- Due to the fear of the parent, the child puts up with many other things in life, which as a parent you would have wished that the child would have brought up earlier.



May be as simple as asking for a lolly or as gory as Sexual/Physical abuse.

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