Confused and scarred for life!

[asli_badmash]

Help me out people! I am confused and I think scarred for life.



So I took this great looking girl out on a Blind Date! She is one hell of a looker. It was the first time I was meeting this girl. I had made up my mind that I am going to be a perfect gentleman. The date went great and she ordered for wine; (I dont drink and also I was driving too) she had bit too much of wine and then the whole issue started. I casually commented that she had a nice dress on and later she caught me looking at parts that were half sticking out, I mean they were like.. We are here and we want you to look at us. Its hard not to look. After she caught me looking at them.. She went all feminist on me and counted my sister and my mom in one long diatribe! FYI: I am no letch, I respect woman a lot.



My question to you guys is, Should I have looked and even If I did, am I responsible. And why should the women wear a reveling dress if they dont want anybody looking.



Now I cant look at any part of women without thinking about my sister and mom. I have been robbed of my simple pleasures and scarred for life. Help!

[tifosi]

Heeeeeeeeeee!!! heeeeeeeeeee!!! heeeeeeeeeeee!!!

[:(]

and you call urslf asli madmash !!! aint goin' together, man ! ur name and the writeup .. tifosi gave the right reply ?



incidentally. I am one amongst those who profeses 'no no' to revealing dresses for women, u dress like one.. u get 'the looks' like u r one.



asli badmash, for u and the likes of u: u seek dates and u dine and wine into late nights and all the rest of it as if u r non-indian and yet when u get such reactions u react like an indian !!! well..?



so, he..he..heeeeeeeeee is the right answer for u. heeeeeeeee..hee..he.



grow up and get over it.

[AslI_badmash]

:( Whoa.. Stop... Stop.... Dont go all judgemental on me (Dude/She-Dude)...



I am an Indian(Hyderabadi) at heart and to the core and I will always be. Dine-ing, Wine-ing and dating has nothign to do with. I dont forget where I come from. I cant speak about other people.



There is an adage.. You must have heard of it. If in Rome.. be a Roman! Also, I dont drink but I respect other people's choices, they want to drink or smoke I dont have a problem.



And FYI my Mom set this date up for me. Its sounds pathetic right.. My Moms hunting for Dates for me! (Heeheee Badmash laughs at himself!) Dont you wish you had a mom like me. It would be like... Mom.. I kinda like that girl... can you go get a date for me... Hehehehehe



But you need to lighten up... Are you SAD Mr. :( Whats bothering you today!



The intention of this post was not to make any political or gender based point. All I wanted to do was to laugh at myself. I appreciate tofsi's with his teeheeehee and what he meant was "Dude this is funny", maybe you misunderstood!



Lighten up. Dont let the world get to you... RUMI (Sufi saint) said this.

[:)]

as long as u aint scarred for life dude lets laugh together at you then



he.heee..heeeeeeee



wait a mt. let me get some of my mates.. and we'll join you.. lolr

[Asli_badmash]

as long as u aint scarred for life dude lets laugh together at you then

he.heee..heeeeeeee

wait a mt. let me get some of my mates.. and we'll join you.. lolr

Thanks for the offer... How generous of you! Meanwhile why dont you share some incidents from your life so we can get an insight into your funny bone.



You know there is a very interesting place you can go to "Shrink-istan"! Maybe you ought to go take a look.



Whatever dude! (Badmash throws his hands up in despair.. and thinks Hyderabad has certainly changed, people are no longer friendly...)

[Radix]

Jiske paas date hai usse bhi tension hai. Jiske paas date nahi hai usse bhi tension hai.



Ki fight lagayi hui hai life me. Barbaad zindagi.

[Asli_badmash]

Jiske paas date hai usse bhi tension hai. Jiske paas date nahi hai usse bhi tension hai.

Ki fight lagayi hui hai life me. Barbaad zindagi.

Now this is what I call funny!



Way to go buddy!

[Nee]

Hey Badmash,



I bet the girl was acting like that just because she was drunk and was beyond her senses. Girls aint as dumb as they seem and no one would want to wear a revealing dress if they aint want u lookin at them!!! Anyways needless to bring ur mom and sister into the picture just cos of this one small stupid incident. Have fun and go on more dates!

[simply awesome]

tum apne aak ko badmash kehte ho, badmashi karte ho and then u say u r scared for life. if she was wearign something revealing and u were ogling at it whats the big deal. obviously she wanted u to ogle so she was wearing that. u should have gotten back saying that she was instigating u, u were just reacting to it.



Y b scared for that

[Neurotron]

Prudes r no good for the dudes man...I don't think you were in the wrong. She probably just wasn't open minded enough.



But I think your Mom's got an amazing attitude. Surely she'd be as willing to help out a friend of urs eh? I could use a blind date every now and then!

[Asli_Badmash]

Prudes r no good for the dudes man...I don't think you were in the wrong. She probably just wasn't open minded enough.

But I think your Mom's got an amazing attitude. Surely she'd be as willing to help out a friend of urs eh? I could use a blind date every now and then!

On the contraray prudes are the in-thing these days(me thinks). They are like awesome flowers not yet opened and soiled by the heartless world. If I may use a cliched word "Nazuk Kachi Kali"; (Damn Desi movies do have an influnece on me...) Anyway; I have found that prudes are freaks waiting to happen. So I am in with prudes.. Woohoo.. Go prudes!



About the girl I dated being open minded or not.. thats secondary. I looked at something that didnt belong to me(not yet) but, the point is when does it become OK to look or touch. How does one know. I know Women want you to admire their body; If you do it too soon.. "you get burnt", If you do it too late, "you dont understand them". Arghhhhhh



Maybe God should have put a light on every item on Woman's body and as it becomes OK to see or touch.. the lights goes on and we dudes are left with better clues and the women are satisfied too! You see what I am trying to get to.



About my Mom.. She is awesome dude.. She has scored everytime for me. I cant tell you how lucky I am. She has an appeal greater than that of a small baby or a puppy. (Girls FYI: We use a puppy or somebody's baby to get your attention! No we dont care about babies or puppies, we want you to look at us, thats that! The turth be said.)

[ma]

where you find blind date

[Five7Jaan]

Did you read Sigmund's book before the date? Because this sounds like a classic case.

Let me clear up something, cuz, boy do you have issues:

1. No, it not wrong to stare. Boys will be boys but don't take that too far.

2. It was not your fault. Nor hers [although I will refrain comments for her choice of clothes].

3. You should dump her [Hint: get away from the horrid situation you have created asap because there is nothing left]

4. First dates are not the end of the world.

5. A blind date always has more cons than pros.

[Asli_badmash]

Did you read Sigmund's book before the date? Because this sounds like a classic case.

Though I admire his work, I dont adhere to his analysis. Boy, some of his conclusions are just out there...

Let me clear up something, cuz, boy do you have issues:

I have issue, wait till you hear some other stories I have...

1. No, it not wrong to stare. Boys will be boys but don't take that too far.

I disagree, its wrong to stare, touch, fondle things that dont belong to you.

2. It was not your fault. Nor hers [although I will refrain comments for her choice of clothes].
3. You should dump her [Hint: get away from the horrid situation you have created asap because there is nothing left]
4. First dates are not the end of the world.
5. A blind date always has more cons than pros.

-> [3] Dump her... Oh.. dont worry about that... Its already done. I did it right then and there.

-> [4] Infact she called and apologized about the whole issue yesterday.

-> [5] Blind dates are interesting and fun, I understand the cons but look at the fun side too.

[Five7Jaan]

It sounds like you have tidied up your situation nicely. She apologized etc.



>>I disagree, its wrong to stare, touch, fondle things that dont belong to you.



Well, this is a surprise! I thought I was replying to a testosterone raged guy who was conflicted by the end of a blind date. And who said anything about touching and fondling? Did you do anything shady that you have not told us yet?

How come you are so virtuous and noble all of a sudden, Mr."Asli Badmash"? Did her apology sway you?



P.S. Other interesting stories? Pray tell me. Mine ears hearken.

[Asli_badmash]

Well, this is a surprise! I thought I was replying to a testosterone raged guy who was conflicted by the end of a blind date. And who said anything about touching and fondling? Did you do anything shady that you have not told us yet?
How come you are so virtuous and noble all of a sudden, Mr."Asli Badmash"? Did her apology sway you?

Her apology has got nothing to do with it. I like to think I am nice guy. I have a sister and I wouldn’t do unto others what I wouldn’t want others to do unto my sister. Its as simple as that. The fairer sex deserves to be treated well. This was drilled deep into my psyche (where the basic ethics are) when I had my Dad's military boot up my ass (its painful) and it wont go away for ever! Positive ass kicking does help.

Anyway back to the discussion, do I sound like a "testosterone raged guy" from my words. I am anything but that. I don’t date a lot. I go for quality not quantity.

What me Conflicted??? I dont think so.. but confused maybe. I have been labeled cold by some people who were big on being touchy, feely on the first date. I thought... maybe I should let go sometimes and when I actually let myself go a little I get bit in the ass. But I am learning and I think the next time around I will get it right. Well, the truth is; the girl told me her previous partner was abusive and treated her with disrespect(I don’t know the details) and she just becomes defensive when her instincts are triggered and hence the reaction. I understand that and I don’t have any hard feelings towards her.

P.S. Other interesting stories? Pray tell me. Mine ears hearken.

Other stories!!! I am all about stories. Little incident here and there and how and what I learn from them. I intend to monopolize the board with my musings. Stay tuned!



Meanwhile, why dont you share some of your's. I love to read, learn and laugh at funny incident. You seem like a person with good sense of humour. Humour-Educate me/us...