I need a gal friend!

by **fren** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 4:07 pm

Hey guys,
 
 
Let me make it clear. I need a gal friend who is cute and well dressed. See, it\'s my life even if I ask for a friend with a cute face.

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 10:30 pm

AFAIK love stems from friendship. And before we discuss further, lemme clear this - it\'s not good to ask for good looks. Good looks or bad looks are not one\'s own creation. Good nature/bad nature - personality is our own creation.

by **weepee** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 11:40 pm

Fren,
 
 
I think you are ultra clear in what you are saying. You need a girlfriend who is CUTE (very subjective!) and WELL-DRESSED. What ppl like Mayavi, Romance, etc. are trying to say is that doesn\'t personality of the girl matter at all to you?

by **fren** » Thu Sep 18, 2003 6:56 pm

Even I have seen the world and I know how to choose a partner. I know when it comes to matters of heart, nobody knows who he/she will fall for, but friends can you explain, nowadays, who really goes for true love? If you love someone truly, you are hurt. Love is just a game and I\'ve not even mentioned that I need a lover. Love is something different wich can\'t be selected or qualified. I need a partner. Who knows, I may fall for her.

by **fren** » Thu Sep 18, 2003 7:02 pm

Personality (inner) does matter but if I say I need a gal who is very kind and co-operative, who can guarantee that the gal I get will be kind enough? See when you get close to someone you come to know what that person really is like and if you are talking about appearances, if a gal is cute and well dressed that\'s enough for me. Huh!

by b. » Thu Sep 18, 2003 8:19 pm

Hey Fren, you have a point. You can be selective with friends, but \'love or partner\' one cannot control. Agree with you.

by **neeraja** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:33 pm

Discussion boards on career, public speaking, good schools in Hyderabad, etc. have absolutely very poor response while some like need a gal Friend have a response close to 55.
 
 
Is it so important to have a gal friend or boy friend? I am sure most of us would be born with a sister or brother. I am dead sure we would not appreciate the idea of our own sister or brother having a pal of the opposite sex, would we? Friends, wake up.

by **Learner** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 5:45 pm

Bulls Eye

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 1:36 am

Hello, wake up to the 21st century India where no one minds their sister or brother being buddies with the opposite sex. India is not Afganistan and please don\'t try to take us to the medieval age by restricting even friendship between opposite sexes. The younger generation is already in shackles of tradition as dating/love (not even for grown-ups) is a sin in Indian society, now don\'t make friendship a sin too.
 
 
Why is it that every female uses the same old words - don\'t you guys have sisters and mothers - jeee, it has become a fashion.

by **neeraja** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 10:11 am

Mayavi,
 
 
Hi. Well whatever or however modern we are, yet we are Indians and we do have a culture and heritage. Even the westeners are trying to copy and follow our tradition.
 
 
Yes, today they will say boy friend or buddy as you call. Tomorrow they will take the girl to an abortion clinic. That is what will and is happening in most of the cases. Do not see things very superficially, and call it as a fashion. It\'s all bullshit. What ever century we live in, we have our own ethics and culture. We can\'t live like the Australians in a defacto status - either Husband or wife both have the same expectations that their partner should be clean without any affair (to be more frank) a Virgin). Your views are very cinematic, dear Mayavi.

by **Ramesh** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 10:32 am

Dear Neeraja,
 
 
You seem to be too traditional. After all, there\'s nothing wrong in even having a boyfriend/girlfriend, let alone just a friend of the opposite sex. After all, you will marry one day, won\'t you. If you think that friendship is bull shit, then what is marriage in your terms? Isn\'t that a taboo thing to do?
 
 
You need to grow up, buddy. Don\'t look at friendship -or to be more precise friendship with the opposite sex - or even having an affair as something related to the West. It\'s but natural. There\'s nothing to get startled.
After all, you will be able to know the other person clearly before tying the knot with him/her. Nothing of that sort happens in an arranged marriage. If you discover that his/her ideas don\'t match, you can\'t do anything but live with it for the rest of your life.

by **neeraja** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 12:13 pm

Hi Ramesh,
 
 
Very ineresting to read your message, but I am not startled. The fact is if the friendship is going to end in a wedding it\'s great, but in reality it does not happen. All these gals friends are only to flirt and to exploit women. Once it\'s done the poor woman is left high and dry. I am writing this after seeing so many cases in distress because of their so called boy friends. My message is authentic because I am a social worker counsellor. So, I have come across numerous cases Ramesh. 85 percent of people seeking friendship, specially men, only seek a fantasy...

by **Wallflower** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 3:38 pm

Fren, if you get a girl who is good-looking and well-dressed that\'s enough? So all you are saying is Looks are No. 1 on the list, and if her nature is \"kind and cooperative\" that\'s a bonus??? Anyway, good luck to you, though I completely fail to understand this thought process.

by **Wallflower** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 4:03 pm

Neeraja, you may have seen hard reality. Yes, heinous crimes are perpetuated by people with a sick mentality but are you giving healthy friendship between the sexes a fair chance? When I say \"healthy friendship\" I mean friendship that is based on trust, the same values and respect for each other. So what if it is between a guy and a girl? In the same breath I\'d also like to add that when someone comes with a \'proposal for friendship\' he/she (in most cases) is upto no good and it\'s best to steer clear of such elements.

by b. » Sat Sep 20, 2003 4:06 pm

Pasand apni apni, khyal apna apna. Why do we think that a beautiful girl will be bad natured or character? Even if she is, then if a guy really cares he will tolerate her. This is what friendship is all about.

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 11:25 pm

Please. Don\'t give me the \"we are Indians, our culture, our tradition...\" crap. Yes, I call it crap because I don\'t think that Indians were conservative when it came to sex in anyway. If Indians (read Hindus) were really conservative regarding friendship b/w male and female and sex (pre martial and after marriage) then who were the people who carved explicit sexual postures, which even the modern western world, shudders to think about? And who were the people who researched and wrote \"Kamasutra\". Martians?
 
 
No my dear, Indians were never conservative in those matters. It\'s only the barbaric invasion of Afghan warlords and their persecution that brought veils/goshas to Indian women. Women were never an oppressed lot in India. In fact, India was a matriach society.
 
 
Kings and queens of India had paramours, they relished sex. Many had premartial sex, \"boy\" friends, and even married women had fantasies about other men! Didn\'t Draupadhi fantasise about Duryodhana? Mahabaratha may not be a real story, but it was authored a good 3000 years back and Kunti, Draupadhi were accepted by the society. So is Radha. Didn\'t she love Krishna? There are still tribes/villages in India where men and women live togather before marriage. That\'s a tradition. They only marry after having kids.
 
 
So why did India and Indians became so conservative, where even sex for pleasure (after marriage) is considered taboo, forget friendship? Sex has become synonymous with procreation, and the Indian govt. still follows a 150 year old british law which considers sex for pleasure an offence. Several reasons, main being foreign aggression. The only way Hindus found to save their women was to imitate the muslims and veil their women. Sati was introduced by Rajputs, and the subsequent oppression of women, too.
 
 
Inspite all of this, \"friendship\" between opposite sexes was never a social taboo even in the \"conservative\" Indian society. So please differentiate between friendship and sex. Friends are different from lovers.

by **fren** » Sun Sep 21, 2003 3:09 pm

Hey Fren\'s is there anything t argue? Friends, having sex with many people doesn\'t show you are much more advanced. Why are we comparing sex with our attitude?If a friend told you that you are conservative, let him think that, but the way you and him think is not correct at all. It seems as if you guys can even have sex in a huge crowd to let the world know how advanced you Indians are.

by **Vish** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 1:04 pm

Hello! I, too, need a gal friend.

by **fren** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 9:43 pm

Hey Vish, wish you all the best. And if you get any gal please contact me, too. I\'m yet waiting for that moment.

by **Question mark** » Thu Nov 27, 2003 3:18 pm

Hey Fren,
 
 You want to share with Vish or what...

by **GalSeeker** » Thu Nov 27, 2003 4:34 pm

Fren you wanted a good looking gal friend right?/ can she be above 50 please??

by **rajesh** » Thu Nov 27, 2003 5:16 pm

hi anu i wann to be ur friend.
 mail me at srajesh_123@rediffmail.com
 
 waiting for u
 rajesh

by **Johnny** » Thu Nov 27, 2003 8:02 pm

I dont want a Girl Friend Please Gals donot mail me or call me up often... i just need some good friends of opp sex.. please understand me.. i am not yet ready for any commitment... as of now i have many other worries to look after rather than wasting time on a girl frnd.. and also i wanna keep my options open..u know

PEACE OUT..
 :D

by **maximus** » Sun Nov 30, 2003 6:30 am

putting it lightly

by **maximus** » Sun Nov 30, 2003 6:35 am

hallo!!
 well said..but where does looking cute and dressing good figure in friendship catalog!!!also need for only a gal for a friend!!!does\'nt that strike a bell

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