Love or arranged marraiges?

[Radha]

I believe in arrange marriages, the most successful ones in the world. What do you think of it.

[Kulcha Hyderabadi]

I didnt get you Radha. Love marriage could be that two people in love get married by the consent of their parents and live happily. By \"Arranged\" you mean that neither spouse knows each other before the wedding?? and by \"Love\" marriage you mean marrying in secret without the consent of parents? Plz clarify. Thanks

[hardcoder]

what do you mean by arranged? get a life girl! how can you marry a stranger and make love to him all your life without even knowing who the heck he is in the first place?

[flyhigh - fullHyd]

Love marriages sound good but, in love you know each other almost very well, and after marrige you\'re left with nothing much and the realation ship is as usual boring,and i does leave some kind of void with parents also, when it comes to happiness. where as in arranged marriage is a good solution, people are happy and you\'ve surprises and something new most of the times, and a new exploration all the time, i think if one believes and can try, this can be a best one.

[Bhaimiya]

Love marriage look very charming, but I think arrange marriage is the best (mera matlab Ladka aur Ladki donno raazi saat mein parents bhi raazi - kya baat hey).

[Tinna]

ya.. i am fully agree with your views...

[lucifer in disguise]

uvcourse ...arranged marriages are good for all those dumbers.....as they do not have the necessary social skills.....God save INDIA.....and no comments on my msg.....i hope u all understand english!!!!

[Kulcha Hyderabadi]

Radha\'s point is arranged marriages are the most successful. I guess we need to comment whether arranged marriages are really successful. Waiting for Radha to clarify what exactly she means by \"Arranged\" marriage then we will talk about success/failure of such marrages.

[TERMINATOR]

how many girls u loved lucifer!!! kidding maan. take it easy

[Radha]

First of all my apologizes for not clarifying the point. What i mean \"love Marriages\" you get married without the consent of your parents, by running away from home etc... Arrange Marriages means your parents arrange the marriage (you may see her/him just one time or the photograph).

[Radha]

lucifer in disguise: What a explanation! God definetely will save us from people like you. I think you are not in India, so you should be aware of the PERCENTAGE OF DIVORCE RATE IN EUROPE, AMERICA OR ANY OTHERS PART OF THE WORLD, ITS NOT HIGH, ITS VERY HIGH AND MOST OF THE MARRIAGES ARE LOVE MARRIAGES, and in India most of the marriages are arrange marriages and you should know that the percentage of divorce rate here is the lowest in the world. If you know the girl/boy before marriage very well for years then why the DIVORCE? Can you explain.

[Radha]

hardcoder, i have explained it clearly, in the message to lucifer in disguise.

[lucifer in disguise]

Radha....Why a marriage ????????can U explain....

[lucifer in disguise]

further on ......its a pity that many in India do not have a true concept of a free and a real marriage.......i once again reiterate, do not comment on my msg........u all know english.....!!!

[Nahari Hyderabadi]

Lucifer: Why u r in this world - can u explain?

[lucifer in disguise]

Sure!!!why did Jesus come down to planet earth.....to wash away the sins of people.....
n why did Lucifer come to this website.....just to spread the knowledge among the ignorants.....

Nahari dont be smart with me , for i am the LUCIFER....

[Ucchu Mian]

Arrrray yeh talqian kyun horahi hain ... marriage jaisi bhi ho hum mard log to utlimately banenge \"Becharay\" hee..

[TERMINATOR]

RADHA enduku neeku ee BADHA

[Kulcha Hyderabadi]

Radha, for once I beg to disagree with you. The high rate of divorce in Western World is an indication of liberated women who dont take any nonsense from their husbands. In India, divorce is a taboo and regardless of the reasons, its always the women who is blamed for the tragedy. Divorced women are stigma in our society. Believe me Radha ji, if women were as educated, liberated and self-dependant in India like they are in the Western World, I bet you that a lot of them will spit on their husbands face and go for a divorce. We dont have laws, legislations and protection for women. Women in India are a abused lot and they suffer in silence. Give them a voice, give them their rights and you will see. Right from the childhood, girls are told that husband is \"pati Parmeshwar\". You see this in movies, read in books...A divorced women has no place to go. So, they just put up with all abuse and punishment. It has nothing to do with \"Love\" or \"Arranged\" marriages.

[Radha]

kulcha bhai, yes i understand what you want to say, but its not the whole truth, now a days in India also you find educated girls and still they are marrying(arrange marriages). I can explain, just tell me when you want to go for a date what you(or any one,boy or a girl) do, you do your best to look good, you try to hide your weakness, wickedness, the darkside of you or i can say whatever which is negative, you want to show that you are the best, and you make feel the opposite sex that you are nice, humble and whatever the possible good things you have, but never ever show the other side. Then comes the marriage both the partners think they had the best, but after the marriage other side pops up, which they never expected from their partners,(it can be any thing)it hurts them, cause the expectations are more. So, the ultimate result divorce. But when you marry a girl you dont know, you dont expect and you dont get hurt. In hindi, \"agar aap ko maloom hai ke samne gadha(hole) hai, to aap sambhal kar chalsakte hain aur aap usme ghir bhi jaaye to zyada maar nahi lagegi, magar jab aap sure hai ke rasta saaf hai(you know every thing about the opposite)aur achanak gadhe mein ghir jooyege to maar bahut lagegi.\" That\'s not expected.

[Badha]

abbaa tattuko leka potunna radha nee matalaki, highly sentimental, abbbaaa gundelameedha kodutunnavu

[Kulcha Hyderabadi]

Still debatable! I think success depends on how both spouses handle difficult situations. Marriage is a sacred institution and as such requires a high degree of tolerence, understanding of each other, respecting each others feelings, wants and desires. In most cases, a small issue or problem is blown out of proportion resulting in prolonged unhappiness or even divorce. I still feel that the \"Love\" or \"Arranged\" dont play a significant role in the eventual success or failure of a marriage.

[hardcoder]

I am glad there are sensible people like Kulcha and Lucifer who are broad-minded and think rationally. Divorce rate is high here in the west because people won\'t take nonsense anymore. Radha, if you husband cheats on you, what would you do? If he beats you everyday, would you just put up with it? Let me know.

[lucifer in disguise]

hardcoder, i appreciate, ur thinking,.....but in reality the thing in India is that women do nto have economic independence, there is never a real match up btwn the wife n husband, so i dont understand how there is a marriage btwn them????how can a guy think of marrying a woman who he never met b4 in life, what sort of a companion ship can he expect from a wife, whom he does\'nt know b4, how can he be sure that the \"\"chemistry\"\" will work out btwn them for the whole life, God n still scores of ppl around supporting arranged marriages.

[niru]

I completely agree with you Radha.. I do agree that arranged marriages are the best once...and your reasoning for that is really great.. keep it up..