Kavitha

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With great sadness i confirm that Kavitha had committed suicide on saturday. I spoke to her brother and he confirmed it to me. right now the family is in their home town Warangal.



she was under tremendous tension and depression ever since she got married. such a bubbly girl like Kavitha had the misfortune to be married to a sadistic monster called Vidyasagar. her troubles began immediately after her wedding when the husband beat her for shaking hands with her male college friends. it was mental and physical hell since then. remember the movie "Agnisakshi"...? u all get the point i hope. even in the photos of the first meet she attended, she asked me to distort her face so that her husband might not see them and create a scene about her going out with strange men. i agreed and photoshoped her face beyond recognition. you can hunt for those old links and see them.



almost 2 years after her wedding, she seperated from her husband and was waiting for a divorce. even after seperation there was no respite. vidyasagar constantly harrassed her on phone. kavitha found a job as a software engineer in a prominent MNC here but vidyasagar started visiting her office and creating a scene regularly. he used to approach all her friends and colleagues and pester them to convince kavitha to come back to him. kavitha of course knew the real person behind the act and though some well meaning friends asked her to reconcile, she didnt. the issue became so big in her office that she was forced to quit her job there and join a smaller company.



she tried changing her phone number, but vidyasagar always managed to get it from well meaning elders who were fooled by his teary act.



last year her community elders met both of them and tried to play mediator and there he had entirely lied and portrayed himself as innocent. that made kavitha and her family firm up their divorce plan but vidyasagar refused and continued harassing her.



a few months ago kavitha was promoted as a team leader in her company but she was reluctant to take up a good onsite opportunity mainly because she feared that vidyasagar would somehow get her client's emailid and mail them about her (asking for their help in reconciling). i spoke to her for long and convinced her that it would be a good change for her and he wudnt do a thing like that. later when her passport was ready, somehow the visit was not happening. if only she had been abroad when the opportunity came up, i am sure her depression would have reduced and she would be back to her bubbly self even on the inside.



a few months ago she called me up excitedly and said that her divorce hearing was coming up the following weekend and she would finally be free. but it was not to be. vidyasagar once again refused to grant her a divorce and it was back to being 'legally seperated' for some more time.



in the meantime, somehow vidyasagar came to know about me and registering in this DB as "rvsagar" and started pestering me with PMs asking me to convince kavitha to make up with him. he did not know that kavitha confides in me, so i was not taken in. he stopped after i politely told him in a final mail that i cannot interfere in her life. he made me promise that i would not tell kavitha that he was talking to me and i had to kept that promise.



i have a strong feeling that this "phoenix" who announced kavitha's death is "rvsagar" aka vidyasagar. he has been hiding his identity while posting so its not possible to check out his profile. in case i am wrong and he is not vidyasagar i deeply apologize (even in person if required) but still i request him to post without hiding his id to clear my doubts.



if vidyasagar is reading this let me tell him that he should have died and left her in peace. i have never said this about anybody, but i wish he never knows a moment's peace from now onwards, even if he escapes the law. he has to live a long, painful life and die a gruesome death. people like him dont deserve a great human being like her.



she never let anyone guess the turmoil in her life whenever she came to our meets. those of us who have met kavitha can attest to that.



last time i called her was before our last meet at eat street. she was attending a wedding (in karimnagar i think) and sounded so happy and enthusiastic. she joked that all meets are being organized when she was not in town.



i had promised her that i would definitely inform her in advance about any future meet. that can never happen now.



rest in peace kavitha.

[Vishrasayan]

It’s a real pity that Kavitha could not confide her final decision in you CAD - I am sure you would have convinced her otherwise.



At times life does seem to be a burden...but if one reflects a little, there's always a silver lining & one can always seek out a purpose for living......with all its twists and turns......



Death is but a full-stop in the epic of life & an abrupt one at that!



RIP Kavitha

[Sri]

It is a great shock.



Definitely she had been an innocent straight forward debator .



I told and apologized her once that in real life I am a man.



I told her that I was disguising as women.



Still then she used to send pm to me.



She was the only person in whole FH debating forum who used to inform me about the FH meetings.



She had mentioned about CAD, Azzazel, BlackWizard, TheCrackedNut, HH sar, HP, Sadubaba, Romu, Marko, in FH meetings.



My heartfelt condolences.



Let her soul rest in peace



Those who have done wrong should be punished.



Abetting suicide is an offence.



It is punishable minimum with 7 years rigorous imprisonment

[betty]

I can't read telugu but from the posted newspaper clip, translated by others, I understood that it has been listed as a 'dowry death'. I think we should all get together and involve the media to bring the culprit under the public glare for punishment by law and by society.

We are a discussion board where people take time off to write on various issues and non-issues. Surely all of us have time enough to reveal the actual story to media and follow it up.



Of course, every person has a right to privacy, so before taking any action, we should take the permission of her family members. But we should not let the culprit go scot free and kavitha be blamed by those 'well-meaning elders' as someone who was stubborn and didn't come back to her husband.

[lonewolf]

Can someone post a photo of that mf Vidyasagar?

[Sachin]

CAD looks like she jus missed the divorce if only her divorce was successful she wld have ....

May her soul rest in peace....

[spamtaneous]

i cant believe even educated ppl. harass their wives for dowry....thats the meanest thing one could do....



divorse or no-divorse... i wish she could have ignored him and continued her life.... iam sure she would have crossed paths with many good ppl in life... its very sad that she decided to end it.

[ycr007]

feeling very sad on reading that a beautiful life had to end due to the evil machinations of a single 'matlabi' individual.



i have had a close encounters with 'depresion deaths' but it is unimaginable for us what she might have gone thru during that traumatic period.

and betty is right when she says that we,as a community (& indeed a part of it), can do something so that the offenders do not go scot-free



IMHO,if it is possible and not too traumatic for them, we have to know whether Kavita's family members would be taking any legal action against the person(s) involved and only then we can even think of anything else to do.

[phoenixus]

With great sadness i confirm that Kavitha had committed suicide on saturday. I spoke to her brother and he confirmed it to me. right now the family is in their home town Warangal.

she was under tremendous tension and depression ever since she got married. such a bubbly girl like Kavitha had the misfortune to be married to a sadistic monster called Vidyasagar. her troubles began immediately after her wedding when the husband beat her for shaking hands with her male college friends. it was mental and physical hell since then. remember the movie "Agnisakshi"...? u all get the point i hope. even in the photos of the first meet she attended, she asked me to distort her face so that her husband might not see them and create a scene about her going out with strange men. i agreed and photoshoped her face beyond recognition. you can hunt for those old links and see them.

almost 2 years after her wedding, she seperated from her husband and was waiting for a divorce. even after seperation there was no respite. vidyasagar constantly harrassed her on phone. kavitha found a job as a software engineer in a prominent MNC here but vidyasagar started visiting her office and creating a scene regularly. he used to approach all her friends and colleagues and pester them to convince kavitha to come back to him. kavitha of course knew the real person behind the act and though some well meaning friends asked her to reconcile, she didnt. the issue became so big in her office that she was forced to quit her job there and join a smaller company.

she tried changing her phone number, but vidyasagar always managed to get it from well meaning elders who were fooled by his teary act.

last year her community elders met both of them and tried to play mediator and there he had entirely lied and portrayed himself as innocent. that made kavitha and her family firm up their divorce plan but vidyasagar refused and continued harassing her.

a few months ago kavitha was promoted as a team leader in her company but she was reluctant to take up a good onsite opportunity mainly because she feared that vidyasagar would somehow get her client's emailid and mail them about her (asking for their help in reconciling). i spoke to her for long and convinced her that it would be a good change for her and he wudnt do a thing like that. later when her passport was ready, somehow the visit was not happening. if only she had been abroad when the opportunity came up, i am sure her depression would have reduced and she would be back to her bubbly self even on the inside.

a few months ago she called me up excitedly and said that her divorce hearing was coming up the following weekend and she would finally be free. but it was not to be. vidyasagar once again refused to grant her a divorce and it was back to being 'legally seperated' for some more time.

in the meantime, somehow vidyasagar came to know about me and registering in this DB as "rvsagar" and started pestering me with PMs asking me to convince kavitha to make up with him. he did not know that kavitha confides in me, so i was not taken in. he stopped after i politely told him in a final mail that i cannot interfere in her life. he made me promise that i would not tell kavitha that he was talking to me and i had to kept that promise.

i have a strong feeling that this "phoenix" who announced kavitha's death is "rvsagar" aka vidyasagar. he has been hiding his identity while posting so its not possible to check out his profile. in case i am wrong and he is not vidyasagar i deeply apologize (even in person if required) but still i request him to post without hiding his id to clear my doubts.

if vidyasagar is reading this let me tell him that he should have died and left her in peace. i have never said this about anybody, but i wish he never knows a moment's peace from now onwards, even if he escapes the law. he has to live a long, painful life and die a gruesome death. people like him dont deserve a great human being like her.

she never let anyone guess the turmoil in her life whenever she came to our meets. those of us who have met kavitha can attest to that.

last time i called her was before our last meet at eat street. she was attending a wedding (in karimnagar i think) and sounded so happy and enthusiastic. she joked that all meets are being organized when she was not in town.

i had promised her that i would definitely inform her in advance about any future meet. that can never happen now.

rest in peace kavitha.

HI CAd or Mr Anand no aplogies. I am gopi , if you know kavitha we ll you can miss my name , just the way i did not , but we must not argue on these things now,sorry

my number

1 602 748 7847 in US

Hyd 9849493720 but currently with my wife.You can ask prasanna more abt me .

BYe

[phoenixus]

With great sadness i confirm that Kavitha had committed suicide on saturday. I spoke to her brother and he confirmed it to me. right now the family is in their home town Warangal.

she was under tremendous tension and depression ever since she got married. such a bubbly girl like Kavitha had the misfortune to be married to a sadistic monster called Vidyasagar. her troubles began immediately after her wedding when the husband beat her for shaking hands with her male college friends. it was mental and physical hell since then. remember the movie "Agnisakshi"...? u all get the point i hope. even in the photos of the first meet she attended, she asked me to distort her face so that her husband might not see them and create a scene about her going out with strange men. i agreed and photoshoped her face beyond recognition. you can hunt for those old links and see them.

almost 2 years after her wedding, she seperated from her husband and was waiting for a divorce. even after seperation there was no respite. vidyasagar constantly harrassed her on phone. kavitha found a job as a software engineer in a prominent MNC here but vidyasagar started visiting her office and creating a scene regularly. he used to approach all her friends and colleagues and pester them to convince kavitha to come back to him. kavitha of course knew the real person behind the act and though some well meaning friends asked her to reconcile, she didnt. the issue became so big in her office that she was forced to quit her job there and join a smaller company.

she tried changing her phone number, but vidyasagar always managed to get it from well meaning elders who were fooled by his teary act.

last year her community elders met both of them and tried to play mediator and there he had entirely lied and portrayed himself as innocent. that made kavitha and her family firm up their divorce plan but vidyasagar refused and continued harassing her.

a few months ago kavitha was promoted as a team leader in her company but she was reluctant to take up a good onsite opportunity mainly because she feared that vidyasagar would somehow get her client's emailid and mail them about her (asking for their help in reconciling). i spoke to her for long and convinced her that it would be a good change for her and he wudnt do a thing like that. later when her passport was ready, somehow the visit was not happening. if only she had been abroad when the opportunity came up, i am sure her depression would have reduced and she would be back to her bubbly self even on the inside.

a few months ago she called me up excitedly and said that her divorce hearing was coming up the following weekend and she would finally be free. but it was not to be. vidyasagar once again refused to grant her a divorce and it was back to being 'legally seperated' for some more time.

in the meantime, somehow vidyasagar came to know about me and registering in this DB as "rvsagar" and started pestering me with PMs asking me to convince kavitha to make up with him. he did not know that kavitha confides in me, so i was not taken in. he stopped after i politely told him in a final mail that i cannot interfere in her life. he made me promise that i would not tell kavitha that he was talking to me and i had to kept that promise.

i have a strong feeling that this "phoenix" who announced kavitha's death is "rvsagar" aka vidyasagar. he has been hiding his identity while posting so its not possible to check out his profile. in case i am wrong and he is not vidyasagar i deeply apologize (even in person if required) but still i request him to post without hiding his id to clear my doubts.

if vidyasagar is reading this let me tell him that he should have died and left her in peace. i have never said this about anybody, but i wish he never knows a moment's peace from now onwards, even if he escapes the law. he has to live a long, painful life and die a gruesome death. people like him dont deserve a great human being like her.

she never let anyone guess the turmoil in her life whenever she came to our meets. those of us who have met kavitha can attest to that.

last time i called her was before our last meet at eat street. she was attending a wedding (in karimnagar i think) and sounded so happy and enthusiastic. she joked that all meets are being organized when she was not in town.

i had promised her that i would definitely inform her in advance about any future meet. that can never happen now.

rest in peace kavitha.

HI CAd or Mr Anand no aplogies. I am gopi , if you know kavitha we ll you can miss my name , just the way i did not , but we must not argue on these things now,sorry
my number
1 602 748 7847 in US
Hyd 9849493720 but currently with my wife.You can ask prasanna more abt me .
BYe

sorry you cna't miss my nem

[Registeredfinally]

so sorry to know this



that freak is gonna live with a guilty conscience..if he got one that is



what a monster!

[lonewolf]

that freak is gonna live with a guilty conscience..if he got one that is

what a monster!

Guilty conscience my ar$e!!! He's an obsessed stalker and a pathetic possessive psychopath bastard. He'll just marry another girl, and the cycle will repeat; happens all the time with dowry related cases.



Anyone knows about the legal progress in this case?

[Ar!e$]

Its jst sick 2 knw dat there r such ppl in this world..wandering wid no 1 2 stop them..i jst wish he drops dead somewhere and burns up in hell..

[lonewolf]

wandering wid no 1 2 stop them..i jst wish he drops dead somewhere and burns up in hell..

He'll burn in hell anyway. He has to be punished for what he did while he's alive on earth.

[phoenixus]

Last time when i had a talk with ehr was on thursday , I made a call to her cell from here in US , she was a bit down , but was not that unhappy, as usual itried to boost some words fom my side, she said she is feeling better then, I frankly did not the know that situation was worse from her innserside.

She would give me calls to me whenever she was a bit upset or down. She never hesitated to call (I am in US) for help. GOD Had she called me once before taking the decision , i would have done anything to stop our beloved friend.

Well,, coming to Vidyasagar ( popularly known as Sagar ), initially used work for STPI hyderabad at ameerpet as Support engineer.

He was cruel , when i met him for the first time , he was ok , but slowly came to know abt this. Its a sin to shake hands with clients in her company. She had to make a promise to her hubby , she stuck ehr promise,though she got late she never asked any one to drop home.

Inface her own brother was not allowd to come to her place after marriage.

initially Kavi(I call her) never disclosed, suffered a lot but neverlet others know her problems. SHe had a mental truama once , but was very brave and mentally made up the mind and never let the office work disturbed.



When she took the decision to leav her hubby once day, I was there with her, she just came to office and cired like anything, and was made up mind. she came out with one hand bag left every other thingat home and we went to their parents and said its enough(by this time she suffred almost 2 years). I still remember that day when she asked me some money to travel to their parents and buy some clothes.

You know one thing she would have 200 bugs fro her monthly expenditure

he grabbed all the ATM debit chequeu books once she started working.

and more over she earns 50% more tahn that fellow used to earn.



she wlays had a very good name , (first job, then she moved to VIT,then to present company ), at all places she was known as commited hardworking , carrer oreiented individual.(she worked till 12 pm midnights ..)



Sagar is a great spy , i still wonder i he came to know abt FHDB and CAD and others.He was after me almost 6 months till last december to agree her to come back to him , I said noway.



My kid will also miss her.She visoted our home everyweekend without fail to play with my kid.She loves kids... My family is missing her badly.

Guys please dont suspect me of her hubby's agent.trust me I am a great loser

I am ready to offer any help from here if you take it to media.



And CAD please pm me your numebr and timings I wil call you.



thanks

gopi

[lonewolf]

I am ready to offer any help from here if you take it to media.

This is supposed to be one of the most popular discussion boards in India accessed by all kinds of people.



Where are the champions of women's rights?? Not a whimper from any of them, not even our own DQ!

[SeH]

That mofo bastard should be stoned to death ... shudnt die a normal death ....he shall feel the pain of death.............

R.I.P Kavitha

[daisy]

God



RIP kavita

[Miss.Taken]

umm i dont knw kavitha but its such a shame that the whole thing ended soo badly.. my aunt had a _ of a husband n her divorce come thru after 10 yrs so i cn imagine wht domestic violence is like and i show no remorse to men like tht...

RIP kavitha...

[Portuguese Man-Of-War]

I feel quite bad about this all.



There is a person called Sunita at TV9, some kind of boss. Anybody who wants her number for this case can PM me.

[Jaszalcatraz]

Rest in Peace

[jungle]

That mofo bastard should be stoned to death ... shudnt die a normal death ....he shall feel the pain of death.............
R.I.P Kavitha

[CtrlAltDel]

gopi, i apologize for suspecting u to be vidyasagar.



if u r in hydbad, we can meet up anytime.

[Jaan]

Truth in real life is so harsh and bitter. CAD bhai, that was such heart wrenching story, and thank for the details...and I am angry that it had to end so sadly for Kavitha.



That bastard, burning in hell is too easy, let him suffer first, I curse him to a life of never ending unhappiness and wish all the bad things in this universe on him and his family.

Its despicable.



I do have some questions (some others have already mentioned):

1. What happens now? Can the family demand any justice? Can/will there be any criminal charges? Emotional damages?

2. Can the bastard marry again? Aren't there any sort of laws preventing such persons for remarrying? I mean technically, he refused to sign the divorce papers?

3. Can we hire some goonda's to beat the sh*t out of him? I am willing to pay.



Jaan

P.S. God RIP Kavitha.

[lonewolf]

1. What happens now? Can the family demand any justice? Can/will there be any criminal charges? Emotional damages?

The family can file criminal charges, but my guess is the mofo will hire a lawyer and probably try to "prove" that Kavita already had emotional problems from other sources, thus diluting the fact that she committed suicide mainly because of his stalking and harassment. Its a common ground used by many defence lawyers/attorneys.

If the prosecutor shows that Kavita was an overall bubbly and happy person without *any* source of depression except from this mofo and his equally retarded family, the mofo and his folks can be locked up for a long long time.

2. Can the bastard marry again? Aren't there any sort of laws preventing such persons for remarrying? I mean technically, he refused to sign the divorce papers?

Oh yes, they can marry again and again until they drop dead! Many husbands who killed their wives with their folks are remarried because of the loopholes in the law. In fact, I've heard of incidents where a man and his mother burnt his wife alive and got arrested, got out on bail the same week and re-married the next week. His second father-in-law says that his son-in-law was "framed" for the murder of his previous wife... until this guy tried to kill his second wife. I don't know what happened to him, and I don't care - there are enough stupid fathers who don't mind dumping their daughters onto anyone who has a "good job" and doesn't take too much dowry (at least initially)!