Sex - What's love got to do with it???

[Alexis]

'Have sex, and love will follow' is the mantra most guys abide by it seems.

[CtrlAltDel]

'Have sex, and love will follow' is the mantra most guys abide by it seems.

well...as mantras go, thats not a bad one!

[Alexis]

'Have sex, and love will follow' is the mantra most guys abide by it seems.

well...as mantras go, thats not a bad one!

Ummm, I guess its not a bad mantra for kick-back and bindaas guys with no respect for themselves or women in general.



See, unless the couple is very serious about each other and do intend on subsequent marriage---sex could be ok. Im in no way condoning or encouraging premarital sex, though.



Why would a guy buy a cow if hes getting the milk for free?

[Reyneeayya]

Maybe he wants the dung..but thats besides the point.



For a majority of the people, and I mean both sexes here, love and sex are intertwined. They are not mutually exclusive. Of course there are exceptions.....like the jerks whose main aim in life is to bed a girl, or the people who do it for a living etc. etc. But it works differently in different cultures again. What is true for India/Indian culture doesnt apply at all for the phirangs...So I guess its all about how you want to look at it.

[Reyneeayya]

Maybe he wants the dung..but thats besides the point.



For a majority of the people, and I mean both sexes here, love and sex are intertwined. They are not mutually exclusive. Of course there are exceptions.....like the jerks whose main aim in life is to bed a girl, or the people who do it for a living etc. etc. But it works differently in different cultures again. What is true for India/Indian culture doesnt apply at all for the phirangs...So I guess its all about how you want to look at it.

[CtrlAltDel]

...See, unless the couple is very serious about each other and do intend on subsequent marriage---sex could be ok.

but what if both the man n the woman (both unattached) just want some no-strings-attached sex to satisfy a temporary lust...? no one is cheating anyone here. whats wrong with that...?

[Betty]

...See, unless the couple is very serious about each other and do intend on subsequent marriage---sex could be ok.

but what if both the man n the woman (both unattached) just want some no-strings-attached sex to satisfy a temporary lust...? no one is cheating anyone here. whats wrong with that...?

Morality and sex is a very confusing topic. Indian society, on the face of it, think of sex as something dirty - a view which is peculiarly contradicted by what is written in old Indian scriptures, depicted in sculptures and ancient rituals.

To take a very simple and objective approach to the issue or question here, there seems to be no problem with sex without love or any emotion whatsoever if both parties are aware of the conditions and they are not deliberately hurting or cheating anyone else by getting into a situation.

However, I am not sure if I would be amused or aghast if someday, someone refers to another as his/her 'sex' partner on the same lines as calling someone their friend, fiancee, spouse...

[CtrlAltDel]

Indian society, on the face of it, think of sex as something dirty - a view which is peculiarly contradicted by what is written in old Indian scriptures, depicted in sculptures and ancient rituals.

the current view of sex as "immoral" or "dirty" is bcoz of the influence of a few centuries of Muslim and British rule. the poor hindu fundoos dont realise whose cause they r espousing when they rant against sex

However, I am not sure if I would be amused or aghast if someday, someone refers to another as his/her 'sex' partner on the same lines as calling someone their friend, fiancee, spouse...

i think these "partners" are called "mistresses" or "toy-boys"...

[mark]

to my mind there is at least a little love in most sexual situations, at some level i think we all see the beauty in each other. i always think of it as some sort of massive cosmic ballet, with astroids traveling in random directions hitting off each other, profoundly changing their trajectory and spin. Some just clip lightly, others smash head on and form 1 body of broken rock shards held together by the weak gravity of the astroid.

Some destroy each other, some hold together and some just alter their paths slightly and spin apart, never to meet again. If you get to the point of having sex with someone then they've already had an impact on your life. I think at some level we all love that, meeting interesting people and sharing an intimate part of your life with them. Anyhow, i think my point is that if you get to the stage where you're taking off your trousers/skirt then there must be something about the person you find attractive and lovable at some level.

[vakibs]

Ummm, I guess its not a bad mantra for kick-back and bindaas guys with no respect for themselves or women in general.

See, unless the couple is very serious about each other and do intend on subsequent marriage---sex could be ok. Im in no way condoning or encouraging premarital sex, though.

Why would a guy buy a cow if hes getting the milk for free?

marriage.. I guess.. is a necessity for even men becoz of the simple fact that they should beget kids (gene propogation instinct) I dont believe there is any other purpose. Reyneeayya, did you have *kids* in mind when you said dung ?



And after marriage, free-sex sucks becoz of the added torture of mental tension+betrayal+hurt+guilt. But otherwise, why should there be a problem with sex if both the people are willing..

[vakibs]

to my mind there is at least a little love in most sexual situations, at some level i think we all see the beauty in each other. i always think of it as some sort of massive cosmic ballet, with astroids traveling in random directions hitting off each other, profoundly changing their trajectory and spin. Some just clip lightly, others smash head on and form 1 body of broken rock shards held together by the weak gravity of the astroid.
Some destroy each other, some hold together and some just alter their paths slightly and spin apart, never to meet again. If you get to the point of having sex with someone then they've already had an impact on your life. I think at some level we all love that, meeting interesting people and sharing an intimate part of your life with them. Anyhow, i think my point is that if you get to the stage where you're taking off your trousers/skirt then there must be something about the person you find attractive and lovable at some level.

thiis is awfully profound !!!! I think I am the kind of person who finds everyone attractive and lovable .. extremely but the sad thing is with all these impacts of asteroids, all that will be left of me is tatters.