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ZC wrote:death occurs many times here.............people kill the character and start afresh.....where-else can that happen

azazel wrote:ZC wrote:death occurs many times here.............people kill the character and start afresh.....where-else can that happen
so, how many times have u been REborn??
n Greetings HH saab



Arch wrote:Life goes on, on the strength of memories.

Arch wrote:It still is very painful. Baba not being alive to see so many wondereful things that we all would have loved to share with him, but..
The time has begun to take care of the pain, though. Life goes on, on the strength of memories.



azazel wrote:ppl, ppl.. show some respect to the guy..
he's talkin abt such a devastating incident of his life n u ****** r talkin abt stupid music n movies![]()
im sorry abt the passing away of ur dad man..
hope u have the patience/perseverence to move on..

Johnny wrote:azazel wrote:ppl, ppl.. show some respect to the guy..
he's talkin abt such a devastating incident of his life ...
im sorry abt the passing away of ur dad man..
hope u have the patience/perseverence to move on..
Yea my deep apologies dear friend ARch, m sorry.. ...

Happy Hyderabadi wrote:Lady "Arch", not "guy" ... I was corrected by MM.

Mona Lisa Smile wrote:
Like a wise soul once said, we live as if we shall never die, and die as though we have never lived.
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Jaszalcatraz wrote:... Arthur Koestler, noted author and founder of Exit, wrote before his own suicide: "If the word death were absent from our vocabulary, our great works of literature would have remained unwritten, pyramids and cathedrals would not exist, nor works of religious art-and all art is of religious or magic origin. The pathology and creativity of the human mind are two sides of the same medal, coined by the same mintmaster" (1977).
Think about that.


Arch wrote:One early morning, unexpectedly, I woke up to my mother calling for me, loudly. Now I think I did hear the pain in her voice. Yet there was that final calm that she always showed in times of dire situtaions. I knew then that somethng was very wrong. I ran downstairs to her. She said, "Baba. Look at him. Something is wrong. I did try to ressucicate him. I tried whatever other methods I learnt during the first aid training. You too try."
We tried whatever we could, including going to Nizams and all. The ECG machine showed simple straight lines, telling me, "But it is over, Arch. Quiet sometime back".
Baba was not there anymore. The pain hit with immense power. My father. Passed away.
I cannot call him Baba and he cannot reply to me when I call him ! I canot hear his voice. Ever. I cannot see him smile that smile which is so special of his. EVER.
..That Man who had been a pillar of such strengths for my mother and to all the rest of us. Our family, nai, HIS family is HUGE. He took responsibility of everybody in the family that needed the help to stand on his own feet. Such an epitome of love and kindness.
Baba is not there any more to hug us. He is not there to scold us, to show us the right path. What happens to Mummy? They had been married for such a long time. It would be so painfully lonely for her..How about all of my sisters and brothers and Baba's ? and Mom's ?
There were so many things that needed to be done. Mom went home to send Baba the way he would have wanted. With dignity, love and with all the loved ones around.
We needed to let our family know and this was an entirely unexpected one. Each phone call to sisters, brothers, mine, Baba's, Moms' was that much of pain, that much of anger that this happened to Baba, yet that much of sharing the grief.
Wanted to take as many flowers as I could so that we could send Baba with all that comfort of.. what, I dont know. I wanted to do a lot of stuff, all that I had been wanting to do , but just did not do ! I was tearing all along. even at the shops. told them that My Baba passed away just now, maaf karna bhayya, yeh phool dena, yeh maala dena.
By the time I reached home, Baba was lying on the bed in a room filled with all the loved ones who are in grief of him passing away. The atmosphere was so very different from what I left from, in the morning!
Mom made it as dignified as she promised Baba it would be. All of us would sit and do bhajans all through, sitting by Baba and taking in those last precious moments, touching him, feeling him. They meant a lot.
It finally happened in the evening. Every coustom has an extreme depth and emotional significance to it. I was realising. Whatever the elders were doing or the Brahmins were doing to Baba's body.
We returned home without Baba in the late evening. We left him there, all alone, by himself. Its the first evening ever when our home will sleep without our Baba.
Whenever the body allowed the tears to flow, they would. The pain, the anger was there. it was building up. Against whom ? God? I dont know. It was too painful to think logically most often.
But bhajans,our mutual strength and mainly moms' strength, our mutual sharing of grief, the presence of all the loved ones and again bhajans was what made us get through each painful day.
The yearn to know what is death had begun to build up from within like a need for gasping for oxygen.
That lead me to ask the elders questions. Read books. Nothing was making any sense. and this was just the second day !
On the 8th day I finally came across Sri Aurbindos book where he discusses what is birth and what is death and what happens after death. That made me feel at peace. I could sit through the ceremonies on the 10th day sending away Baba to God, with peace.
It still is very painful. Baba not being alive to see so many wondereful things that we all would have loved to share with him, but..
The time has begun to take care of the pain, though. Life goes on, on the strength of memories.

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