Agreed that you might have been mighty confused at times; maybe you contradicted yourself here and there, but then, who doesn't? This in no way means that you're on the verge of losing it. Whatever you've written here goes to show that you have a thinking head on your shoulders. Trust me, it'll go a long way in helping you through any crisis that you may encounter.
In your reply to MM, you used the past tense to describe your feeling on pain. Does it mean that you've gotten over it? If so, wish you all the best for the wonderful life ahead.
xyz wrote:I have a great professional life (thats what people tell me!) and a even more promising career path ahead of me. I am healthy and not so bad looking. But I guess... thats all I have, all materialistic, tangible stuff.
Well...that's not all you have. That's all you're conscious that you have. There is more that you already have but are not aware of. There is further more that you don't have but can have. I hope you get my point.
xyz wrote:I know some even dont have that.. But I envy those people who have had a life of abject poverty yet had someone to share that life with. They werent alone!!!!
The grass on the other side is always greener my friend. They might not be alone, but do you have any idea of the pain they go through to see that the ones they love are also going through the same life as them? Anyone around who says that lack of material stuff doesn't matter to him is somewhere in a state of denial as only ascetics can claim to be so.
MM :
This is in no way an argument against whatever you've prescribed here about combating grief. Its just to remind you that it's not everyone's cup of tea. It needs a clear understanding of one's situation and the emotional maturity to handle it. Good for xyz that she was mature enough to digest what you said. Someone lesser might have plunged into deep depression. Please be careful about the advice you offer on media such as the internet. You don't malintend anything but you never know how the other person might take it.
