Where are the cool Hyderabadi dudes?

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 11:58 pm

\"I know you gals are here for friendship.\"
 
\"Give me your mail ID.\"
 
\"I want a beautiful gal to love me or to be friend.\"
 
\"Why do you gals shy away from guys?\"
 
\"Make friends with me. I am a cassanova, you see.\"
 
 
What happened to the cool Hyderabadi dudes? Did they run out of cool pick-up lines?
 
 
\"I know gals need guys and I have a big ****. Mail me.\"
 
 
Guys have become so desperate that these pathetic lines are commonly seen in chat rooms and message boards. Forget ettiquette, forget manners, forget pick up lines, even decent behaviour is missing. Why should gals make friends with some \"Golkiska Gottam\" whom they don\'t even know and who never tried to impress them? Oh boy, are we still stuck in those neolithic age where male species buggers a female when he gets a turn on and forgets her after doing his thing? Being a male, sometimes I feel ashamed by pickup lines like these - suddenly thrust into modern civiization, left with an erection and no satisfaction are out to prove their manliness(?) but don\'t realize that it\'s not the way to go. Leaves a bad impression on all Hyderabadi dudes. I have been on several forums and chat rooms (national and international) and seen pickup lines like these (which are in bad taste) and 90% of them happen to be Telugu people and more than 70% of them from Hyderabad! Something is wrong.
 
 
I understand that gals are a little shy so the onus is on men to make the first move, but is this the correct approach? What\'s the gals take on this? I have seen many of my friends using this crude approach and it fell flat on their faces, left with public insults. I tried the alternative, well proven approach of a good pickup line and mannerism. Worked fine for me, not just once, several times.
 
 
Comments Neeraja, B, ZC, Bornhyd, Nidhi, Pavani?

by **neeraja** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 12:40 pm

Hi Mayavi, yes you are absolutely right? The approach needs to be proper, as there are many gals who certainly want to have good friends. Of course, they have the same feelings like any guy. After all, gals are also human beings. As you rightly experienced and analysed, the right approach would be the right click for an adventure...

by **Jekyll & Hyde\'rabadi\'** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 9:40 pm

It\'s heartening to see that there are guys who view such statements in the same light. Yeah true, the lines reek of desperation. In fact, that\'s one reason why many like me opt for a neutral name when we chat/post. That way I\'m spared the corny stuff that\'s spewed out of heads of good-for-nothings. Whatever happened to the decent breed of guys?

by b. » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:32 pm

On the contrary, I am male but shy. So my moves are never straight forward and it seems like beating around the bush. Then I get a label of being a jerk/cold fish & so on. O\' well life is so beautiful. Personally, I always love beautiful women and do care for them a lot...

by **Bimbette with a Brain** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 11:58 pm

You love \"beautiful women\"? Now, where have I heard that before? How about saying that you love a woman for what she is and not for what she looks?

by **JustaLittleUnwell** » Sun Oct 19, 2003 3:52 am

MM, though I\'m not among the privileged few whose comments have been solicited, I decided to respond, nevertheless. The phenomenon you describe is not unique to Hyderabadi males, but is a charecteristic found across the world, encouraged by the anonymity offered by the medium of Internet. To give you a real life analogy, you will find all kinds of obsceneties being shouted inside a dark movie hall, and when the show is over, you will rather find educated and relatively decent looking guys emerging from the hall. Is there a solution? I\'m not sure. Is this behaviour exclusive to male species? Not sure either. I\'ve read that the situation gets as much or more desperate in male strip bars meant to cater to a female audience. My conclusion - when people (men and women) are away from public glare and away from being critically judged, they act in ways influenced by their primal instincts.
 
 
And Bimbette, stop acting \'holier than thou\'. A person is entitled to his or her preferences when it comes to choosing a mate - for some it is beauty, for others it is 6-pack abs and muscles, for some others it is great sense of humour, or it could be bikes/cars that a guy owns, the bank balance in his/her account etc. Claiming that your preferences are superior to those of others is equivalent to claiming that your religion is better than mine - or in other words, fundamentalism.

by **Bimbette with a Brain** » Sun Oct 19, 2003 2:14 pm

JustaLittleUnwell, I read and re-read my post and I fail to understand which part of my post comes through as \"my preference is superior to others\". Like you said, to each his/her own. Who am I to judge other people\'s choices? All I was trying to say is, to use a cliche, to me, external beauty is just skin deep. In the long run it\'s the inner self/being that counts. Now if that comes across as being \'holier than thou\' then its just your way of interpreting it. I never did mean to sound moralistic, anyway.

by **JustaLittleUnwell** » Sun Oct 19, 2003 5:17 pm

Bimbette, this part: \"How about saying that you love a woman for what she is and not for what she looks?\" (Implied meaning: the former is better than the latter,).
 
 
Thanks for clarifying that you don\'t mean to sound moralistic, in which case you shouldn\'t be outraged when some one says he prefers beauty over brains.

by **Bimbette with a Brain** » Sun Oct 19, 2003 7:31 pm

JustaLittleUnwell, that\'s precisely what I don\'t understand. My opinion didn\'t match that of b\'s. That\'s why I posted what I did. The implied meaning is how YOU choose to look at the whole thing. This is a discussion board, where everyone is entitled to speak his/her mind, right? And where does the question of \'outrage\' arise? I just couldn\'t see the same point of view, so I posted what I did. \'Outrage\' is giving the whole issue an unwarranted serious connotation.

by b. » Sun Oct 19, 2003 7:37 pm

Hey, chill guys! I agree with her. She has a right to say. We need to enjoy the freedom of expression here, and I love to see intelligent females like her frequenting these boards. Man! it is so damn boring without them.

by **JustaLittleUnwell** » Sun Oct 19, 2003 10:47 pm

Bimbette, obviously what you said implied what I said it implied. A preachy \"how about A and not B?\" obviously implies that A is the right choice and not B. You are also welcome to count the number of question marks (assuming they conveyed some meaning and were not mere decorations) in your original post to get the import of your message and its tone.
 
 
Of course, it is a free country and people are welcome to post what they feel, and it holds good for other users as well. So, while you exercised your freedom of expression to post your comment, I exercised mine to comment on it. Fair enough?
 
 
B, I\'m sure your \'intelligent women\' would be there to provide a lively debate

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by ZC » Mon Oct 20, 2003 3:09 pm

From very young age, I and my friends used to say, \"I don\'t have a girl friend. What am I doing studying all the time, working all the time\" to have fun, or just to talk something when we have nothing else to do or just to kill time? But we never were serious. I don\'t understand the logic of starting message boards O:(. I won\'t propose to a girl \'cos I don\'t have the time/energy and don\'t want to fall in the vicious cycle and I won\'t trust a girl who makes the first move. Let my parents decide :-)

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by **Bimbette with a Brain** » Mon Oct 20, 2003 9:04 pm

Hey JustaLittle, you\'ve been pretty belligerent for a person who\'s been unwell :-)

!!! No offence meant. And where are the question marks in my previous post? Moderator, you on my side??? Yeah, let freedom of expression rule!

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Mon Oct 20, 2003 9:16 pm

Kya ZC, you won\'t trust a gal who makes the first move? Why, may I ask?

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Tue Oct 21, 2003 3:35 am

Can we move on? Peace.

by ZC » Tue Oct 21, 2003 11:34 am

Correction: Indian girl. It\'s okay if the first move is made by a foreign gal, phirangi, chinese... Anyone except Indian! Why? \'Cos, I feel it\'s show business for Indians who fall in love. We Indians mimic the movies/west and it is not natural for us.

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Wed Oct 22, 2003 5:04 am

I can only laugh at your wisdom.

by **I dont discriminate,I hate everyone equa** » Wed Oct 22, 2003 5:59 am

I happened to stumble uppon this message board and what really enthused me to post a message is the non-relevance (I won\'t say irrelevance, here) of most of the posts to the actual topic of the discussion.
 
 
MM - just because guys go around chat rooms with flashy one liners projecting themselves as sex Gods, it doesn\'t mean that they don\'t care about the feelings of girls. NO. It doesn\'t even imply that. And, your claim that more Telugu guys do this is absolute rubbish (I presume you went around posing as a girl to collect stats about their nativity from those guys?). Let us just say that the Internet provides a medium wherein people can shed all their inhibitions and go out all open. Maybe guys try to attract the attention of girls, who are enormously outnumbered in such chat rooms, with flashy one liners, usually sexual in nature. But then haven\'t you seen some girls using one liners like \"hot chick\", \"sexy girl\" or whatever, because I certainly have?
 
 
My point is that guys do care about girls and their feelings(irrespective of where they are from) and trying to sterotype guys and that too certain guys is an outrage.

by ZC » Wed Oct 22, 2003 1:27 pm

Okay, laugh.

by **IMRAN** » Wed Oct 22, 2003 1:27 pm

Ha, good thing peeps! This should have been brought in the limelight. \"I dunno why every pole is in search of a hole.\" Proposing to a girl, having fun, and then leaving. Nope, this is not life. Just think about it. Well, I am a happy man because I believe love is created to ruin perfectly healthy relationships. No girls, you are the complete man, of course.

by b. » Wed Oct 22, 2003 1:50 pm

Hey ZC, I can understand what you are saying pal, but correct me if I am wrong (what I have heard). Our gaon ki goris know/do everything but still play innocent.

by ZC » Wed Oct 22, 2003 2:30 pm

B, that\'s one of the several good points. It\'s difficult to describe on message boards. Let me try. I have seen girls going with guys \'cos they have big J problems, \'cos everyone around them talks about friends of opposite sex (same applies to guys. I am not gay, so I don\'t bother much about this), etc. etc. and finally dump/ditch \'cos they realise that this is not it. Immature, I guess, defines most of the drama. People really don\'t know what they want. I attribute this to our culture. \"Look at that fellow, he\'s studying well\", \"Look at them, they have money\"... So \"look at him/her, he/she has a gf/bf\" so why not me O:)!!! And then they make movies \"Main Madhuri Dixit Ban-na Chahti Hoon\". For heaven\'s sake \"Be yourself\". KAN-FYUZED ;-)

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by **casanova** » Thu Oct 23, 2003 1:54 pm

Hey Mayavi, you have pulled up my socks. Oh! How wrong I was! Really, you are a genius. I am really regretful for all those rubish things I did. I should have created any board like that. Hey gals, I am not desperate for you at all. Now I have started giving a damn for gals, Mayavi Zindabad. Mayavi Zindabad!!!Hahahahhahahha.

by **fren** » Thu Oct 23, 2003 2:03 pm

Mayavi, aapne mera aankh khol diya. Aap mahaan ho balki aap insan nahi bhagvaan ho. Hey, don\'t you have any work to do? You think you are Mahatma Gandhi. you can chnge our mind. No way. Gals just wanna have fun. How to lose a guy in 10 days. So we do. Even guys just wanna have fun. Love, I mean love.

by **Mayavi Morpheus** » Fri Oct 24, 2003 12:53 am

I will try to respond to all the posts here. First, I don\'t discriminate. Dude, I am not stereotyping all guys. My post only reflects my views which I formed after reading some of the topics here and after visiting several Chat rooms. Now you asked how do I know that most of them are Hyderabadis. It\'s very simple. I can read Telugu. Visit any of the International Chat rooms in Yahoo (Hyderabadis are tech savvy and most have access to net). People start with these \'flashy\' pickup lines and when they don\'t get any gals, the departing line will always be some Telugu word (filthy words). After spending some time it\'s very easy to guess who is Indian and who\'s a foreigner. Another easy way of knowing is to ask. Ask any girl from Phillipines, Vietnam, Thailand who chats regularly on Yahoo. Every one of them has a story to tell about a Hyderabadi guy talking dirty with her and asking her to send naked pictures. These gals chat regularly and are always looking for an American to chat with, but they always find Indians (Hydis, esp.). I have some net friends, Phillipine and Vietnamese girls. One of them manages a cyber cafe (in Phill) and she has several stories to tell about Hydi dudes. The first time I talked to her, she was surprised to find an Indian who doesn\'t talk vulgar! That indicates something. I know it\'s wrong to generalise, not everyone is like that. But those who are, are ruining others\' reputation. The first question they ask is...

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