This particular cat’s name is willie India. In the USA it is very common to call the native Americans as Indians. When they say Indian it doesn’t mean us (we are called asian Indians or as Robbin Williams humorously differentiates in Good Will Hunting – Indians with dots and not feathers). As Arch and some others clarified, it could mean several other things. Most of the time, it’s this overreaction which makes even the most trivial incidents appear as dangerously important. It’s these knee-jerk reflex reactions which feed the archetypal stereotypes of a race, religion or a nationality. What’s this crap about freedom of expression in the USA while those indulging the same are caned and hosed in India????? God! Where does one get such (mis)information? And what freedom of expression are we talking about? How short is our memory to forget about Dixie Chicks, Susan Sarandon or Tim Robbins during the USA’s attack on Afghanistan and what about this incident where in the FBI was keeping track of all the all the Anti-American protestors in the USA. If there is any country which is a real democracy, then it is India. In the USA, the big brother is all always watching! Believe me, there’s a always a veiled threat and the yankee land is not such a “free” nation after all.
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I mentioned this before also (in the board about rudeness) but I reiterate again. Agreed, everyone is entitled to have an opinion (it’s a free world after all, including India, though some of us have a different notion). But how sane it is to club any issue below the sky with one’s friend’s boyfriend’s sexual prowess? And what’s all this nonsense about bleeding on the nuptial nights? Again, my friend told me

Who needs BBC, CNN (no, I don’t even want to name any Indian news papers or agencies – because we will be skinned alive if we report any truth) when we have friends and their boyfriends – such valuable authentic sources. I remember a funny anecdote. There’s this “smart” kid who has an English exam and he has to write an essay. But his smarty has prepared for only one topic and that’s about a cow. When he goes to the exam, he is asked to write an essay each on aero plane, train and summer vacation. Here’s what he does for Airplane: “I was flying in an airplane, and from the window I saw a cow. The cow has four legs, it gives milk….” On the Train: “I was going in a train and I saw a cow from the window. The cow has four legs. It gives milk…..”. And lastly, on Summer Vacation, “In my summer vacation, I went to my village. There I saw a cow. The cow has four legs and so on”.
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Let me also put something straight. Just because someone comes here on H4 (dependent) visa doesn’t mean there fate is sealed or they have to die as homemaker (or as house wife). NO, they can change to H1 or J1 or F1. No body prevents that as along as long as a company is willing to sponsor. So, PLEASE don’t attach any ulterior to motifs to anyone trying to get their spouse on H4. Most of the times, it is sheer practicality and issues related to immigration. And just because, one’s wife is staying at home doesn’t mean she is doing any menial job or her husband is subjugating her. She could be doing that purely by choice or she might not have any choice (because no company is ready to sponsor H1). In fact, I know several “house-husbands” here in the USA. Moreover, freedom or liberty of women doesn’t mean, they have to be doing a “job” – a conventional one. It’s the thought process that needs to be liberated. In any case, I personally feel, the toughest job is to be being a homemaker.
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Unfortunately, this is all a result of being brought upon crass literature. Of course, every one of us has (or still) at some point in life have gone through a stage wherein we believe everything we read and everything our peers say (especially in adolescence) from our friends. But we need to outgrow it. <br>
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Lastly, I am aware that I have clubbed several issues here. I am guilty of being and indifferent or even lazy to go to each of these several topics and try to reason out. Nevertheless, I thought it was my solemn right to set the record straight and put some brake on this idyllic wallowing in the pool of blissful ignorance. And NO, neither I am the moral guru nor a prude but a staunch believer in facts; and facts from reasonably authentic sources.